All right well, I was seeing this guy where I used to work, but recently it ended. We always had eyes for each other and he was the first to initiate conversation. From then on, though we kept it professional and platonic, we would flirt with each other and I could tell he was into me. At the time he had a girlfriend, but it was apparently on the rocks.

Since then, and this was in May, I left the place of work (my internship ended) but got up the courage to ask him out for a drink.

To make a long story short, he agreed graciously and after that went on to having several dates mostly every weekend. Every date consisted of wining and dining, kissing, holding, telling me I'm beautiful, reading my favorite book, picking me up from the train station, I met his good friend at one point, the works. Basically, everything was going perfect!

After our last date (late June), I didn't hear from him. Not a call, email, text, nothing. I let it go. Play hard to get, don't chase I thought. One month went by without hearing a word and I finally couldn't take it anymore and sent him a text. He responded right away, and said he was fine, was away for work recently and asked how I was. Nothing bad. Sounded like the same old guy.

Then I heard nothing again. Finally, this week I got a email form him saying he started seeing his ex girlfriend again and just had to explain where he went (he and her broke up right before I came into the picture) and that eh wants to maintain being friends, he liked spending time with me, etc. I handled it cool and said "No problem. Great getting to know you too, take care."

Today, I got a text out of the blue from him asking if I was in the city. When I said I wasn't and asked why, he replied that he wanted to give me a gift. I said thank you, but it wasn't necessary, and to be quite frank, I was actually insulted. Sure give me a gift to remind me you broke up with me. AWESOME! The he said that he realized the way he treated me this past month (not talking to me after having those dates) was impolite and that he recognizes that. And that whatever he had is a little gift to show how much he values our relationship.

WHAT IS HE DOING TO ME!! What I want to know is if you're back with your ex, why are you all of a sudden texting me, wanting to meet me and give me a GIFT? What guy does that!?

The way I see it is any other guy who was seeing a girl but got back together with his ex and totally avoided telling the other girl right away would be so happy that the break up went fine and the weight is off his shoulders. Why do I have a feeling his ex put his back to the wall and he was at a crossroads between her and I.

Seriously, help me out. I don't know what he's doing/thinking.

I wouldn't except it, don't meet up with him. Honestly, it sounds to me that he really likes you but wants his girlfriend. He can't have his cake and eat it too. I really don't want to say it, no one deserves it. But from the sounds of it, him and this girlfriend aren't a great match and I think he knows deep down it's true. But he might just be putting you on the back burner in case she breaks up with him again. For your sake, I hope I am wrong, but that is what it sounds like to me.

I think you may be right crisluvsu731. It just seems very odd to me that 2 days after telling me he's been seeing his ex, that he wants to send me a little gift to show he "values our relationship :)" I think he doesn't know what he feels and he's confused. He and I had a ball together and it was right in the new and exciting stage. The best part? I have to return to where he works in a few weeks for another internship. Got to play it cool!

It's called fishing, because what he is doing is toss a little hook out there with some bait, designed to keep you close enough to reel in. This way if the ex doesn't go as planned, he can fall back onto you.

Ignore his texts, ignore him plain and simple. You deserve better than someone's second prize

As long as he is with someone else don't even bother. Then even if he isn't with someone else it probably isn't worth it.

Why are you wasting your time??

Ignore him.he sounds like an immature waste of space and time.there are some good men out there:let this go.

I have to go with the general consensus here,he is a waste of time.

Unless he is that one in a million guy who does truly regret being so rude to you and is trying to make amends with no ulterior motive.

I think he is keeping you around ,or at least hoping to keep you in the loop as plan B,just in case plan A falls through.