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so....my bf of 2 years and friends for 8 dumped me 2 weeks ago. He was always talking about marrying me, how I'm his soulmate blablah and he really isn't the guy just to say those things. (I promise) He said he wanted to be alone, blah blah, and he didn't want a relationship. Well, 3 days ago I found out he was making out with some high school girl! And she's not even cute. (And I promise I'm not being a hater). What is this about how he wants to be alone, then he can't even wait 2 weeks before another girl? He's hanging out with a really bad crowd, and now apparently he likes high school girls. (He's about to graduate college). He's never been the player type, he's always been really shy. It seems like he's trying to be like the other guys. What's the deal with this?
He has changed. He is obviously not the shy guy you have known. He probably feels he has missed out on something and is trying to get it back. He will learn the hard way. Please under no circumstances wait for him to change back. Give him what he wants, and be glad he broke up before he cheated(?). In the meantime carry on with your life and leave him alone, thats what he wants. If he comes back don't be there as you can be happy without him. Take the opportunity to look around with fresh eyes and see what you can enjoy without him. It may be hard, but must be done.
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He is young and is going through changes and has decided he (as tal points out) is missing out on something.
Sorry if this hurts but he probably wants to experiment a but and date other women. Tal is definately right on this one, let him do what he wants and be glad it did not happen further down the road if you became married with kids.
Be glad also that he did the right thing by finishing with you and not cheating on you. That would be very hurtful.
I believe he has dealt with this in the right way. I know he gave you false hope of his eternal commitment to you, but men and women when they are at this age do not really know what they want. It is easy to become inspired by the concept of meeting a first love and for it to be the one true love that lasts forever. it does not always work out that way.
When he said he wanted to be alone was his way of letting you down without hurting you. He knew what he wanted to do but did not want to hurt you in the process.
Find a life without him, there are plenty of fish (including sharks) in the sea..
I agree with Geffersonairplane and talaniman; as for him making out with some girl, it sounds like (to me) that she knows nothing about what the two of you had and was fed a line by some guy looking for a rebound. It IS great that it happened after the two of you broke up. Nothing says you can't move on, because obviously he has.
Let him play with his high school girls and be glad he let you out before he cheated.
He will get burnt. Whatever it is that he has with this girl is nothing and i can see a lot of pain ahead for him.
if thats his way of dealing with a break up then you should be glad you arent with him anymore. Sure it hurts but it looks as though you are seeing the real side of this person now!
Like you said, he could be finally feeling his oats and wants to play around. I agree that someone who's at the age to be graduating from college is playing with fire fooling around with someone who's high school age. But evidently he's not relationship material right now. Count your blessings that he let you go now before things went any further and you got burned even more.
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