My ex girlfriend and I, broke up about 2 months ago. Since then we still talk daily, mainly because of me. I want to be with her, and have told her that. Also I have told her that I realise the mistakes that I made in the past, and I do. She is talking, or geting ready to start dating another man. I want to change, and not just for her but for me I was far from a perfect boyfriend, and i'm surprised she stayed with me for 4 years. I've told her how I feel about her, but I messed things up so bad she doen't want to have anything todo with me, and it tears me down to know that another guy is going to be dating her now. What should I do? How can I make things rite? I believe if I was givin one more change, knowing what I know now I could do things rite.

Foxy459459

rememeber the saying ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THEN WORDS. If you were givin more then one chance you can say all you want but theres nothing you can say that is going to make her believe you. Now its time to start proving that to her. but you deff started the saying out right, you dont want to just change for her you want to change for you. Because you will never change if its not for yourself. What went wrong in the relationship? If you dont mind me asking. 4years is a very long time to be with some one. But if you love her that much dont give up. Keep on trying and always follow your heart!

victoria_mitchell

I would say to be brutally honest you probably dug yourself a grave. When you say that your weren't the perfect boyfriend and you're surprised you atayed with her, you are obviously admitting to your faults, but because you were like this is your relationship (to me) the likely hood of you getting her back is slim to none, simply because (the way she is probably thinking...) "He wasn't that great of a boyfriend then, what has changed now?" and like the previous comment you telling her will not prove anything to her. Only time will tell. But if she does end up going with this other guy I would strongly suggest against tellling her these feelings because if she's a good girlfriend she will push you away so she can focus on her boyfriend.

trujew

You are being way too hard on yourself. Things do happen. I myself am in a weird situation with my boyfriend but it's all together different. Unless shes willing to listen and really truly believes you can set things straight or change, I'm afraid you have no choice but to accept it as it is and move on. I'm learning too that things are not easy these days where relationships are concerned. Whatever you did, make sure you find forgiveness in yourself around it. Beating yourself up about it provides nothing. Look, we all make mistakes and stuff. I've had guys just stop calling me all together or take my current situation...I've been dating a married guy (uggh) and what a surprise...he wants to stay married and I feel rejected. So you are not the only one who " makes mistakes " as you call them. If nothing else, honor her decision (as I have to) and move on. We always think we can't find anyone else. I know I deal with that all the time. But if you feel that there is something still there, then write a letter to her. Sometimes that helps. There's the old fashion way by sending flowers. I really don't know what specifically you did but if she's hurt guy, she's hurt. Learn from the experience and take it one day at a time. Remember, you are not alone. We all walk together at some point. Last thing I'll say is, is that if you do try to get back with her, realize it might take lots of your energy and a high level of integrity to prove yourself again. Do things respectfully and don't stalk or disrespect her.