I jsut found out my girlfriend of 3 years has been cheating on me. She basically blames the fact that she had to ask me for affection as the root cause for her seeking comfort elsewhere. She says she carried me and that she was sick of it.

I really miss her. I have had several conversations with her and foolishly told her how deoressed i am how in love with her i am - i also cried in front of her and begged for her to come back to me. didnt work, she became very cold and said that i was 'weak and pathetic'.

She also blames the fact that i was always too good for her, and that whilst she loves me as a person she is not in love with me.

I know she has been seeing the guy that split us up.

Im just devastated.

Will she come back?

Im making imporvements to my life, i intend to invite her to a comedy showcase that i will be performing in to show her how much drive i have.

I wish

That's not excuse to cheat. If she had problems with you, she should try to work it out with you. If she can't work it out, she should make it a clean break.

Why would you want her back? How can you ever trust her again? You shouldn't blame yourself for her cheating on you. You deserve better than that. Have more self-respect and more self-esteem than that.

snakebiteadl

I know - im going through a rollercoaster. she is a lot younger than me, and we were so in love, but the last six months i got lazy - youre right its no excuse to cheat - im just thoroughly exhausted at the moment. Ive laid new plans in palce but i cant help but think about her. we had such a good relationship and understanding and during the break up she still used pet names and said she loved me then when i called her on har cheating she got really defensive.

She has changed overnight, she used to be my little angel now shes putting slutty facebook profile pics, which i told her wasnt her and that i think that whoever she has been modelling herself on (a new girlfiend at work) clearly has her mind messed up.

I love her so much and im tryign to move on but i keep having setbacks.

I wish

What are your age ranges?

Harshness warning

Unfortunately she's not the same person as when you first started this relationship.

The question is, can you accept the change. Living in a fantasy world hoping that she will go back to her old ways is not healthy for you.

She's moving forward with her life and so should you. Quit living in the past.

snakebiteadl

shes now 20 im 27, shes 21 end of april.

I know i need to move on...do you think she will ever come back to me?

Ive been in these situations before and the girls have always been back

talaniman

She cheated on you. (strike 1)

Blamed you for it. (strike 2)

Then dumped you. (strike 3!!!!!)

She is out...............NEXT!

Disappear from her life, as why would you want a selfish, lying, manipulative cheating slut back?????

amicon

I dont think she changed overnight,there's usually a building up of things over a period of time.

You should,as I wish said,move on. .

Entertaining false hope of a reconciliation is most often just that,false hope.

Breakups are painful,all we can do is heal and start getting on with our lives.

snakebiteadl

I guess i feel such attachment as we have spent literally everyday together, i nurtured her through a crisis of confidence and ironically now she appears to have zapped mine.

I didnt see this coming really, she just went out one night and kiss this guy she works with, and was texting him flirtily, i threw her out based on this.

I miss all the time we spent together. It did get a little heavy and i did warn her that i was feeling very stressed, she said she was depressed...then she kissed the guy and now the are screwing

im gutted

amicon

Nobody can take your confidence away unless you let them.

Gutted or not,pick yourself up and take the first steps on the road to healing.

We have all been there and we have all got through it.

And so will you.

vanheart

This girl aint for you man.

Liar, cheater, blamer. And you love her so much.
Get a reality check.

Is that what you want?

A 20 year old that says shes carrying you? What a laugh.