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Is ex boyfriend using me?

Asked Aug 31, 2009, 12:44 AM — 23 Answers
My ex boyfriend broke up with me about a year ago. He said he loves me but wasn't in love with me. 6 months later he started going out with a girl that he was crazy about. Over the year we had no contact. A few days ago he called me and said he made a mistake by letting me go and that I was the best thing to happen to him. He got played by the other girl. It's been 2 months since she left him. Unfortunately I'm still in love with him. He wants us to be friends and wants to see if maybe he can love me the way I love him. Is he just taking advantage of my weakness for him? Am I being unfair to myself by letting him back in my life? Is it really stupid of me to hope that maybe this time around he'll love me?

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Sep 4, 2009, 07:50 PM
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thank you all for your great insights. I decided to cut off all ties with him. I realized that he's simply not the same person I fell in love with and no matter what, I would always feel like his back up plan. Trust would always be an issue and love would just not be enough. I did speak with him one last time to explain why it isn't healthy for me to keep him in my life. He didn't understand but I have to do whatever it takes to make myself happy. He was my first love and I really haven't felt the same about anyone else since we broke up a year ago. I will be able to fall in love again, right?
Yes..give yourself time to heal.
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Sep 4, 2009, 08:39 PM
You most definitely will, IF that is, you allow yourself to.
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Sep 5, 2009, 06:49 AM
Yes you ll fall in love again-learn to love yourself first so you can go on to have a healthy relationship.
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Sep 5, 2009, 07:31 AM
I agree with KCtiger that you can't go by feelings and emotion. He may not be using you because he is not trying to get you to jump right back in a relationship.
Sometimes when people get out and see the grass isn't greener they then realize what they had and how they didn't appreciate what they had when they had it.
He could be genuine and sincere
BUT
Proceed with caution
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