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  • Apr 23, 2012, 06:11 PM
    Girl15
    My ex boyfriend cheated on me and I still love and miss him so much!
    What should I do? It was a long distance relationship and this was his second chance. I caught him again I went on his FB and noticed he had a girlfriend. He told me that he loved me with all his heart and he would never ever cheat on me. We haven't talked in a week and I'm dying. I miss him ! I even texted him to apologize and everything but he doesn't text back, he even sent me pics of his new girl and him kissing. Is karma real? When is he going to realize what he lost :"(
  • Apr 23, 2012, 06:56 PM
    Jasmin5help
    Well Obviously if he cheated on you TWICE he isn't worth it an you should find someone better because you deserve it he isn't right for you... Im not saying you can't work it out but U shouldn't be saving him a space in your heart if he isn't making an effort to stay
    Do u understand me or am I confusing you :)
  • Apr 23, 2012, 07:13 PM
    none12345
    What you should do is disconnect all ties with him, don't talk to him anymore and move on with your life.
  • Apr 23, 2012, 07:41 PM
    Jasmin5help
    None12345 is right you should just forget the fact that he hurt you and move on you need to find a guy that messes upp your lipstick not your mascara :)
  • Apr 23, 2012, 11:14 PM
    talaniman
    What's wrong with this picture? He gets caught cheating TWICE, has a girl friend, and you are texting HIM to apologize for everything? That's sick.

    I have two words for you, LOSE THE LOSER, and get over this desperate need for punishment. Never contact him again, never let him contact you, and never let a guy play you this way ever again.

    Let karma get even for you, he will get his for his cruelty.
  • Apr 24, 2012, 08:23 AM
    Hopeful2012
    I'm in a similar boat. A week after I had spent a lovely weekend with my boyf of 2 years and he had been telling me he loved me, etc, I found evidence he had cheated on a night out. He initially denied it then sent me an email confession. I didn't hear from him again save for when I contacted him after a week of no contact after that email to say What the heck and he told me he wanted out. That was 3 months ago. It has taken all my willpower not to phone him or text him etc because I take the view that as the injured party I shouldn't be the one chasing after him or fighting for him. If I got him back that way, I would always feel that he would have free rein to repeat the shoddy behaviour and that I would be a total doormat. I feel wretched though. He hasn't contacted me. I keep thinking even after all these months why hasn't he realised his error in losing me and why isn't he fighting for me, for us, etc?
    BUT
    If he does realise what he has lost, he is a coward for not even trying to reconcile. He will be sad and lonely, unable to cope with any difficult emotional situation by doing anything other than disappearing.
    If he doesn't realise what he has lost, then he is a loser who shows no respect for others/abiltity to commit/honesty by professing love one minute and cheating the next and he will cheat again and again. His relationships will always suffer.
    Neither scenario makes for an attractive prospect for the future.

    It does get easier with time. I have been keeping busy, not turning down any invitations, going out with friends, arranging trips, etc. To begin with, every night out felt like it was missing something and I'd wind up in tears. But then there was the odd occasion when actually the odd day or night out was just as much fun as it would have been had he been there, if not more. And then the fun times became more regular. Now it's just the times when I am alone and bored that I find myself wondering/being sad about him. I imagine/hope soon they too will pass.

    No one is immune from this sort of heartbreak- talk to friends, they'll have been there and will be able to help you see the light. Beyonce's chune 'Best thing I never had' will begin to ring true. You dodged a bullet!!
  • Apr 25, 2012, 11:33 AM
    Girl15
    @talaniman -I know carma will get him real bad,but he seems so happy with his new girl ,that it even hurts me I want him to suffer . I'm trying my hardest to forget him to,it's just that I fell to hard for him );

    @hopeful2012- this is just too hard for me,but we just have to keep our heads up. <3

    @none12345-I'm trying to forget him and move on with my life but it's just hard .
  • Apr 25, 2012, 11:36 AM
    mmresd
    End the relationship, no point in continuing something with someone who is already involved.
  • Apr 25, 2012, 11:39 AM
    Girl15
    @jasmin5help-yes I understand you,but we even talked about getting married and having kids together and he was going to move in,but now everything went down the drain. I'm just stuck ); I'm done contacting him though ,at least I'm going to feel better about myself for apologizing ,but he never texted back after that? What does that mean ,if he didn't text back ?

    Is karma (what goes around comes back around ) real ?
  • Apr 25, 2012, 11:53 AM
    none12345
    Why does it matter? What goes on in your ex's life is none of your business anymore and you should try to heal and move on.
  • Apr 25, 2012, 11:57 AM
    mmresd
    You need to move on, it doesn't matter what he does or doesn't do... it is none of your business.

    As far as karma goes, I believe is real. But keep in mind that wishing negatively on someone because they have done you wrong is a form of revenge, and if karma is real, it will come back for you too. It is better to just move on.
  • Apr 25, 2012, 11:58 AM
    excon
    Hello girl:

    I don't believe in much, but I believe in karma.

    excon
  • Apr 25, 2012, 03:59 PM
    talaniman
    The best revenge is taking this as a blessing and escaping a rotten liar and cheater. It's a chance to start fresh and choose a better partner. See karma is already working in your favor.
  • May 15, 2012, 11:36 AM
    auzky
    My boyfriend cheated on me on a long distance relationship we've been apart for 3 years. This is the second time he cheated on me I felt so crushed... I hate him so much because he didn't have the courage to let me go when I told him to let me go if he already found somebody, I even find out about it because the girl texted me she saw my no. and my messages in my boyfriend cellphone my boyfriend was being careless with his cellphone so she asked if we have a relationship thou she said their relationship is not too serious. I told her our relationship has been over 7 years now but since he did this to me again the second time around that's it!! I'm giving my boyfriend to her I don't care anymore he's so selfish and greedy also a coward!! Its about time I let go and time for me to move on mybe its time for her to go through what I;ve been through when we were together... so goodluck to them!
  • Sep 20, 2012, 09:21 PM
    amabeast
    My ex cheated on me for 3 years and I had no idea till I hacked into his Facebook and saw the messages that he was sending to all these girls... so what I did was throw everything he owned out the window. Never feel bad because of the choice you made to end everything. He obviously had no respect for you.. what you could do is stay busy w/ everything that will help you talk your mid of him... he's a ing douchebag honey

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