How do i begin?i am so broken hearted.me and my boy freind been best friends for over 4 years and he was my only best best freind that i share my secrets with.But we start dating about 14 month .things were very good in the begining but later he start abusing me and hit me several times.now i am hurting because i lost my best freind at the same time my boy freind that i really love.I dont want forgot to mention he has a child with other woman.But he really hate a woman and abuse her and kick her out of my huise when she came to look for him in my place.i love him now i cant sleep or eat i lost my appitate i dont know what to do?i am very skinny i lost alot of wait.i cant sleep good at night i take vacation from work for one week i because emotionally sick i cry alot i through up a lot.so tell me what can i do to get over him?i am 29 no childern i live alone i feel so lonly because he was my best freind that i use to tell every thing.now i dont have no body help me.thank you for taking to read my story
Hi Guys,i am back with much more pain.I cant stop crying and hurtting my self.because i was talking to my ex and he was talking to me nicely and I had a hope that will be together again.but he closed his phone last friday and he did this friday again.Now i felt all over again broken heart.i feel like he with his baby mama or with some other girl.I am so angry he is moved on I am still in the same sircle suffering broken heart.i know he is abusive but we had alot of love together.some time i feel guily maybe i push him too hard becasei of his baby mama.i cant stop crying.and last night i dream about he is with his ex sitting.and when i called him in the morning he close his phone.I am so miserble what can i do.i try so hard to get over him but it is just so hard.i get back to my sad emtions again.please help me before it is too late.
Im going to be harsh here. You must know that this guy's a no good waste of time and space. Instead of going complete NC on him youve stayed in touch and let him play with your head and heart Don't keep doing this to yourself. Only you can find the strength, the courage and the guts to get him out of your life for good-never mind how many babymamas he hangs around with. Find your selfrespect and stay well away from him. Good luck.
What are you doing Lisa? Come on, don't you have more respect for yourself? Is this what gives you happiness? (ABUSE) You want this man? IS this what life is about, having a wonderful boyfriend who showers you with abuse and heartacher over and over again? You need to talk to therapist and fast? You are heading down a very dangerous road!
please dont give up on me.your advice give me alot of hope.it is strange the one who heart me and make me miserble,he is the one who make me feel beter.he called me and we talk and he blamed me for every thing that goes wrong in our relationship.he said i became agressive and angry man because of you.i keep bringing his baby mama all the time and he said i hate her and u keep remind me by her all the time.i dont know now if i am to blame in the situation.But the thing is when i talk with him I feel beter and i stop crying.am i so much in love with him or what is all about?i cry so hard and stop doing every thing just sit and cry,when i talk with him i feel beter.can u guys say some thing dont ignor me because i am confused.what can i do to let him go complitly and stay strong or get him back and be happy and some times sad guys i tald u my situation from the begining.help me what is the best for me.been away from him is hurtting alot
You re going around in circles again.
I wish you d give yourself a chance to be free from this obsession.
He 's abusive-he 's a liar and a cheat.
We all want you to have a happy life but you ve got to make your mind up yourself-stay miserable for a long time or let this go-as of yesterday.
Lisa we have all tried to help you but you keep on going back to the same situation. It frustrates us because your not listening. Your making excuses for the man who is abusive. Do you not think that much of yourself to even stay in a situation that is abusive and cursed from day one. Come on, I would think you know right from wrong. Find someone who worships the floor you walk on and treat you like a queen, not a doormat.
Lisa, it is never too late to tell that sorry excuse for a human being to hit the road.
You are not to blame because he doesn't know how to be a mature individual and communicate effectively with women. You can be part of teaching him how to learn by going FULL No Contact and letting him beat his own head against a brick wall (metaphorically speaking). No MySpace, no Facebook, no calls (cell, land line, other person's, computer), no email, no snail mail, no smoke signals, no messages in a bottle, etc.
I know you have the ability to be strong and stand up for yourself. You came here. You asked for help. Weak-willed people don't do that. You need to hold up a mental mirror and see all the wonderful qualities that you have inside that make you unique and a great person. I know the woman who existed before this individual came along is still there just waiting for you to let her shut off all communications with him and to help you rebuild your self-respect and esteem.
Take back your life. Let yourself tell him that you will no longer have anything to do with him or his drama. Give yourself time and resources to rebuild yourself stronger and better. It isn't easy. You already know that.
When you think about him change the thought. Take charge of your dreams. When you realize you are dreaming, shove him out the door. Let in someone new who wants you not a punching bag (mentally, emotionally, or physically.)
Remember to keep yourself occupied mentally and physically. Have you tried new hobbies that you might have to take a community class to learn? Get involved in volunteer work. Relearn how to enjoy life.
Hi Guys i am sorry i make you frustreated you with my situation.i have read your advice over and over again.it is all help ful.but what i really want know is how to get over him? tell me?I want fallew your advice step by step.what is the first thing i need to do?what i been thinking why i am suffering this much over this,i think not because i am so much in love with him or he was my best freind.no i think because i dont want leave him in peace with his baby mama.even though I know he is only going there for his child.still i dont want be a loser in the situation.ppl use to talk he left her for me now i dont want them to talk he left me for her.I am really sorry it sound sick and physics.but i really hate this woman and i dont want to her to feel she is a winner. this is what i really feel.so what can i do to get over all this weared situation what can i do to just forget about her?because it talking the best of me. help me to get over my anger over this woman
This might be where you allow yourself to stay stuck.
This woman or any other woman in the ex's life shouldnt matter to you.
You however matter, your health your safety and your happiness.
Stop all contact with him and I mean ALL contact.
If you want to keep suffering, we won't stop you. If you keep talking to him, you're going to continuously reset all the progress you make to the point that you're not even making any progress anymore.
You can't heal if you keep in touch, because you will over-analyze all the little details and have false hope, which is very unhealthy behavior.
Until you go 100% no contact, you're just going to prolong the mysery.
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