Everyone was right.:(.she didn't even understand why.

Sam86 · #1 Jul 27, 2007, 09:31 AM

response to the previous post.. http://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relatio...tml#post519311

:P..thanx everyone...i stopped talking to her...then after a while she tried to contact me...she was angry and blamed me, saying that she gave me her friendship and that it always has to be about me and my feelings for her, that i didn't think about how they would feel..and that i'm selfish. I explained it again to her, that i can't talk anymore or be her friend, because the whole situation is/was just to painful and i felt used, but if she ever really needed help or was in any kind of trouble she should call me and i'll help as i always did. She told me that she can't possibly understand, that it's not logical, if i hate her then why would i help? She asked for her things back and her boy-friend explained to me that there is no other way, he's definately gonna marry her, no matter what his parents say and that i will have to get used to them being together, because i have no other choice. :P..lol..i told him to leave me alone and that i wish him all the luck he needs..(he failed one of his exams this year and now he can't get into college or get a decent job...i hope he has better luck retaking it..i really do, at least for her sake...without college in my country people have such a low salary that a person can't live for 2 weeks from it...at least his EGO is as big as ever..). After giving her things back and seeing for myself that she hates me we parted ways. She still doesen't understand why i as she puts it "ditched her"...and snapped at me when i asked her if she was ok..(she almost cried when we exchanged the borrowed stuff)..saying that exactly her words:.."why do u think that everything is about u!?". lol...i took her crap,pain and rejection for 10 months and she can't even handle this much without ing about it constantly and trying to make me feel even more guilty.

i still feel guilty...and sometimes it gets bad...in those moments i would want to say that i'm sorry and take everything back...but i can't and i woun't...it would only mean more pain for me and them

I realize now that everyone was right about her and that she only used me, i was her toy. Now that i'm gone she's bored and doesen't really have anyone to "entertain her". I realise that until everything was going in her favor and things were ok..she was nice..and caring, ..but as soon as things went bad and i voiced my problems she started hating and blaming me. I don't ever want to get back with her, not as a friend and definately not as her bf.

..i'm looking forward now and studying hard to be a psychologist. I still wish them a happy life together..they deserve each other.:P..at least i don't have to put opp with her depressive moodswings any more, and i'm free to live life

chuff · Jul 29, 2007, 03:31 PM

Well I'm new to your situation but I think if you read some of the posts at this very sight you will see just how lucky and smart you are. You actually opened your eyes and learned something. Some people come here, get awesome advice and then ignore everything because they don't want to face the reality that they are getting used or the reality of losing someone. You have faced that reality and you accept it which only means for you, the pain can go away as opposed to some who continue to punish themselves.



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