I need help with this. I met this guy in a game (sue me) and he was all into me and wanted to meet me IRL (he lives close, within 300 miles). He 'loves me' and so I 'loved him' and then he began talking about serious things: Marriage, sex, babies.. And something else, I'm not even straight. But he does not realize that I cannot be with him if I'm lesbian. Also, I cannot date because I want to do this cult thing (lol..I want to work on a charity- help group and stuff that I plan on trying to make become giant)

So I have three reasons why I can't date: I don't want to settle down, I'm not into males, and I have a lot of stuff to do.

But then I broke this to him, because I was feeling uncomfortable. Online 'dating' is ok, because it isn't that serious, but he wanted more. I broke it to him I don't want to be more than friends, and he's talking about stalking me and stuff. like, hiring 'private investigators' to find me and he'll find my phone number and address. etc. I dunno how to handle this crap head. COuld you please give me suggestions? I know I could get police involved (I really am kinda freaked) but I just want to settle it myself. thanks for any help ~.~

Oh yea. I'm 16 and he's 24. o0

Echoz

Chances are this guy is just trying to scare you, and there shouldn't be anything to worry about. You should just break off all ties with him to be safe. What kind of 'friend' threatens to stalk you anyhow?

However, if this DOES become more serious, you should first explain to him once again your reasons for not wanting to date him. Don't be mean about it, just stern. If that doesn't make the wheels in his head turn THEN definitely sever all ties with him.

If he proceeds to ignore your warnings and you not speaking with him, then it's time to seek help outside of yourself, like the police. The internet can be harmless, but just as dangerous at the same time.

*~Echoz~*