dunno which one to choose

cutie08 · #1 Apr 11, 2006, 04:37 PM

ok so im dating my best firends ex and she swore that it didnt bother her cuz she was the one that told me that i should date him and i told her that if she ever had a prob with it to let me kno. and so then ther other day she told me that she did so then i broke up with him. well after i did i really missed him and stuff so we talked me and my friend and she told me to go back out with him but i dunno wat to do i mean i really miss him alot but i dont wanna hurt my best friend or ruin me and hers friendship anyone have an advice for me on wat to do???

DrJ · Apr 11, 2006, 04:41 PM

Live your own life and dont make decisions based on how your friend is feeling on a bad day. She said it was okay the first time... shes not allowed to change her mind. If she does, its for her own selfish reasons. Im not saying to sabotage yoru friendship with her... its likely more valuable than this relationship with this boy. But she is also a young girl and unsure of what she wants in life.... why are you going to base your life on what she decides she wants or doesnt want from one day to the next?

s_cianci · Apr 11, 2006, 06:19 PM

Well, when push comes to shove you can't let others run your life for you. You have to do what's right for YOU, not what's right for your best friend. If you and this guy really care for each other then it's really not fair for your best friend to come between the two of you. If, on the other hand, it's just a casual fling then it may not be worth upsetting your best friend to the point where it ruins your friendship.

fredg · Apr 12, 2006, 04:51 AM

Hi, cutie,
If you want to keep this girl as your best friend, find yourself a boyfriend that she doesn't know!
She is being much to "wish washy" about the whole thing, and will probably change her mind many times about it.

DJ 'H' · Apr 12, 2006, 04:56 AM

well it depends really, can you give me a bit more info, like did your best friend break up with him. Did he break up with your best friend?

If you let me know the circumstances and how it all came about, I will be able to advise you in what the best course of action is.

Wildcat21 · Apr 13, 2006, 04:03 PM

Almost RULE #1 - not quite.......never date people that your friends dated seriously. Never. Never date your frineds ex-spouses. They may play nice - but it never works out.

Kryc · Apr 13, 2006, 05:59 PM

I say do what make you happy. One life is all you get so make the most of it.



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