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Me and my ex are friends but we still love each were good friends well more then friends but less than lovers seein that he has a girlfriend hes been with for a while. We talk for hours at night but...it seems he cant have a conversation with me without bringin up how much he wants to make love to me and i always tell him noo then he says "when we hang out im gonna rape you". everytime he asks to hang out with me i always come up with a excuse because i dunno i kinda thinkk if i was to not wanna have sex with him then he would rape me he is very aggressive and is known for his temper. it sucks i love him i really do and i loved hangin out with him but now i wont cause i dont wanna put myself in that position. im scarred to hang out with one of my bestest friends. i tried explaining to him if i hang out with him then im not havin sex with him but he says that i wont be able to resist because of how much i love him.. and i know i dont wanna have sex with him or anyone else cause im not ready but i feel like if i do hang out with him then its just gonna happen because of what we feel for each other orrrr if i hang out with him and i do say noo then he will get aggressive and actually rape me .... i dunno its like a lose lose situation i just wanna hang out with him without anything physical but i dunno if i can cause im soo drawn to him
im sorry but i would start no contact its not a good situation that your in
1,you need to get over this guy and move on which you cant do being in constant contact
2,if you are scared of him and what he could do stay away from him
3,he has a girlfriend how would she feel if she new what he was saying to you
4,find anew friend you don't need a friend like him
read what you have written hear what would you say if that was your friend that posted that???
you deserve better,go out have fun and forget about this nut case nobody says things like that joking its not funny stay away from him if you don't your going to put yourself in a situation you wish you hadn't
START NO CONTACT MEANING NO CALLS,TEXIS,EMAILS,NO HANGING OUT,OR ANYTHING
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Are you kidding me? What the hell kind of pick up line is "I want to rape you?" This guy has some problems and needs help. I'd recommend some to him and be supportive of him trying to change and I'd only do that via the phone....and that might be asking to much.
You'll just have to trust me on this one, but a guy who threatens rape, is not a friend, and is setting you up, because he can always say he told you of his intentions, and you came to him any way. Now he get what he wants, and you get hurt, so get this psycho out of your life, anyway you can. He is dangerous.
Get away from him as fast as possible, if he is saying he is wanting/going to rape you then he is messed up in the head and might even do it, not worth the risk. You deserve to be cared for and loved by a decent guy not someone who thinks about raping you.
i took the whole "im gonna rape you" thing as sarcasm... i dunno if anybody else did. but if i was flirting with a girl on the phone, i'd probably say something like that, but it would be a joke... i couldn't ever rape anyone.
anyway, you shouldn't be talking to him anyway! your relationship is over, start with No Contact. if he asks, just explain to him that its too painful to talk to him when you're trying to get over him.
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Originally Posted by ihatewestseneca
i took the whole "im gonna rape you" thing as sarcasm... i dunno if anybody else did. but if i was flirting with a girl on the phone, i'd probably say something like that, but it would be a joke... i couldn't ever rape anyone.
anyway, you shouldn't be talking to him anyway! your relationship is over, start with No Contact. if he asks, just explain to him that its too painful to talk to him when you're trying to get over him.
I'm serious when I ask this and this is not an attack but how exactly would you say that as flirting? I guess I just don't see how a woman could see that as flirting.
I'm serious when I ask this and this is not an attack but how exactly would you say that as flirting? I guess I just don't see how a woman could see that as flirting.
I can see how it can be strange, haha. but if i know a girl who is attractive, the next time we hang out i might say something along those lines in a Joking manner. as if to say, "you're so hot" but in a way most guys wont say it. i dont usually say "rape" but i might say something like, "im just gonna start making out with you next time i see you". but i wouldn't say it to a stranger, only someone who knows me, and knows my sense of humor. im very sarcastic.
good question though, this way people wont think im a creep.
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