i dunno in which direction my love life is going

fanko · Jun 16, 2009, 02:15 PM

sorry guys i m new here need your help please suggest me something........

we are in relation for about 2 yr,for a year i was out of country , i m 21 yr old and she is 20 . earlier there were hardly any fight,argues on something.then after sometime things changed , expectations were there and all that.
now from a month she is living with her parents, and its not possible to meet her coz im in other state so we talk on phone.
from my side i always give 100% to make her happy because i love her so much .
when ever she is upset i try to cheer her up, but now sometimes she gets annoyed by my stupid talks or by simple talks,may be she is getting frustrated at home. or by other problems around her.
she says that all my stupid deeds accumulate and explode like volcano on the whole of my tackling any situation when it comes to her is simply worse.
when ever she feels that she'll get something special from me , i disappoint her

, from my side i try not to disappoint her,but things mostly go against me.
now these things are really getting serious but on phone how can i guess that something is wrong with here or she is upset,in starting only it was decided that we wont hide any thing we'll talk it out as we feel for each other. i cant speak out things which are bugging me, i never expect something from her, but she expect from me and she deserves too, its not that i don't fulfill her expectations at times, but i m not able to

,she says that she has no one to speak out this frustration so i m the only one who gets everytime the frustration, even i don't mind in helping her , she even know that there are places where she is also faulty and must have hurt me.
well day before yesterday i couldn't msg her for the entire day as she was sick, i thought i'll call her in night and will have a nice and wonderful talk but when i called her she was so angry with me that i could have msgd her single sms . i know its my mistake this time but no need of making it a issue , may be she was annoyed already with something and all frustration again on me...

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what should i do ?? to save my love of life from going away slowly. i can feel that by my stupid mistake I'll going lose her.
sorry guys for this long explanation

im too worried of losing her

plzzz help me what should i do ???

fanko · Jun 19, 2009, 06:18 AM

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Originally Posted by talaniman

How long is this distance stuff supposed to last?

a month more.......

fanko · Jul 4, 2009, 01:11 PM

after tht night i started dance class and gym to get bzzy so not to think abt her,she is was in contact with me, but same prob again she is at home and bzzy with parents and grandparents,not even time too talk ......now if i react like kids nd say tht we dont talk and all those thing thn she will say tht u shuld understand tht im bzzy nd its not possible to call u,in this tell me wht shuld i do ?? im texting her in morning and in evening good morning and good night, from her side she sends 1 sms and tht to like 12 hrs aftr, she might be bzzy but from my side im texting her, its not tht she wana break up with me its tht she is bzzy,, and its making me restless....help me as i told u for this i joined gym and dance class wch is helping me sumwht but in the end of day its like she is tht much bzzy,,,,,,,,,

mum2five · Jul 4, 2009, 01:45 PM

I do not see how you can call this a relationship.
You do not see each other regually nor make should I say she makes the effort to bother with as much contact as she can.
No matter how busy she is surely she would find a way to reply to a text message.
I think she may have lost interest in this relationship which is why she is acting so cold towards you.
Instead of her just being honest with you for some reason she feels she can not be , is she afraid of hurting you?
She is being very demanding but maybe there is a lot of resentment and frustration in you two being apart. Not everyone is cut out for a long distance relationship.
If you feel you can not appraoch getting to the bottom of why things have turned so sour why not write her a letter explaining all you have here and demand some answers.
Maybe it is time you were both honest.
What type of relationship is one without honesty?

fanko · Jul 4, 2009, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by talaniman

Stop being so available, by slowing way down with the texting. Leave a few days without texting, or calling her, and see how she reacts.

i guess yes .......
from 2morrow i wont mesg her, and wont contact her.

mum2five · Jul 4, 2009, 02:25 PM

Give the texts a miss for while and wait and see if she bothers to contact you - if she asks why you have suddenly stopped replying tell her since she never replies then you guessed she was fed up of you.
Time will tell you the answers.

fanko · Jul 5, 2009, 07:03 PM

guys i didnt send any sms or missed call , but im really getting restless......

help me how to throw this kind of feeling .......

fanko · Aug 8, 2009, 10:25 PM

Hi...
We finally talk after a month and she wanted a break......she said she is lost, she wants to search herself.....
So we mutually broke..

Before getting into relation we were good frends..and now break up she asked me to be her friend, she doesn't want lose a good friend she said. Its really hard when I'm alone, or not doing anything I just burst into tears...she said that if she is still lost she will come back..

tell me guys, that is it really possible that after break she will return, or she will not ??
should i be in her contact??when I'm with her i can accept the fact that we are not together any more but afterwords I'm so low every time.
i think if i stop being in her contact then she will be in the habit of not seeing me, so how she will come back ?? tell me what should i do???