My girlfriend after a year of dating just got up and left one day. We lived together for almost that whole time and were talking about getting married. I simply don't understand what happended. I was blind sided? How do I handle it?

Geoffersonairplane

Sorry to hear about what has happened. I think more details are needed here as to what you perceive led up to this situation.

1.)What was said at the time of her leaving?

2.)Did you have any argument or was it just a choice she decided to make on the spot?

3.)Did you notice anything unusual about her behavour leading up to the day of her leaving?

4.) If so, how did she behave?

5.)Did she not explain herself at all, did you not communicate?

These are all important questions that need to be addressed while working out what pushed her away.

jaspar01

the week leading up the everything wasn't all that un ordinary. she picked up an extra class after work in which she was an hour late coming home from. I heard her make plans on that monday to go out, but she denied going. Her response was that she had a gut feeling that this relationship wasn't right.

Skell

Could Be many things. Very hard to tell what is going on here with the lack of info!

Sounds like you moved way too fast.

You had been living together pretty much the entire time you were together? Wow, you hardly had time to know her and you were living with her.

That can smother people, and eventually they get sick of it and want out.

But some answers to Geoff's questions above would be helpful as far as answering your questions on how to handle it.

Can you give us some insight into conversations you had when she was leaving you? You arent giving much detail which makes it hard to answer.

It may even be another person. I might be way off but sudden breaks can often seem to mean that they have met someone else and want out immediately so they can be with them!

talaniman

Since you moved in together so fast,, you probably didn't know each other very well, and so she changed her mind, and decided to go another route. Don't dwell on it, as if she wanted you to know something, she would have said something. Just move on. Not worth crying over such a cowardly, selfish person. I advise you not to move in with a stranger next time no matter how she turns you on.

JDOP

I say there's another guy in the game, especially when she was talking about going out and then denying it. I know you won't believe it at first but all the signs are there. It is a horrible thing and she is not worth you. Cut her off at once before she has a chance to hurt you even more