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Im 20 years old, and i have a 2 year old little boy name jacob. I'm in a relationship where i cant find a way out. My boyfriend/baby father is very abusive and i feel like i cant go no where because it will affect Jacob. He really dosent have a steady job and i do. I've tried to leave him 5 times already but it seem that jacob and him cant be apart. It really hurt me to see my son miss his dad. Im not married but im very depressed he treats me like if im not worth anything.Im 20. Why does this happend to me? why do i feel like the whole world shuts down on me.
Please, please, please do not stay for your son. It will not be beneficial to him at all. What will be beneficial to him is to have a mother. This man could escalate his abuse to the point where he may kill you what would Jacob do then?
Please talk to someone you trust and leave. You can do it and it will be better. You are worth plenty - you are someone's Mommy that is the most important thing in the world.
Im 20 years old, and i have a 2 year old little boy name jacob. I'm in a relationship where i cant find a way out. My boyfriend/baby father is very abusive and i feel like i cant go no where because it will affect Jacob. He really dosent have a steady job and i do. I've tried to leave him 5 times already but it seem that jacob and him cant be apart. It really hurt me to see my son miss his dad. Im not married but im very depressed he treats me like if im not worth anything.Im 20. Why does this happend to me? why do i feel like the whole world shuts down on me.
Just what type of abuse have you been subject to? Usually a spouse abuser also abuses the children as well. It doesn't seem that Jacob is the victim of any abuse. I would hope that that's the case but I find that hard to believe. Either way, if you are being abused as you say you are, you need to get yourself and Jacob out of there. Don't feel guilty by Jacob missing his father. If he isn't already abusing Jacob then it's just a matter of time. As his mother you have the duty to protect him from that. If you don't then you're just as culpable as the father. Pack your and Jacob's bags, take off and don't look back.
Magip When your b f is abusing you he is also abusing your son. When someone mistreats you that impedes your ability to take care of your child properly. You can not be the mother you want to be, or your whom your son needs you to be when you are walking on egg shells. If he is hitting at you or screaming you can count on it your child hears it! So, yes he is abusing your son in a sense as well. No one but you can change how you let another person treat you. There are laws in place to protect women and children. There is counseling to help you figure out why you feel as though you have to accept this. There are places to live other than with the abuse if you so choose. You have to decide how much you are willing to take from this man,because it will not get better on its own. If you do nothing then in 1 year 2 years, 3 years everything will be the same , except your son, who will be scared from watching this go on between his parents. Good luck and may you find peace.
Magip thank you. I really hope that you get help for you and your child. It is everywhere you just have be willing to take it. I can see from your post that you are strong. It takes a strong woman to hold down a job, and to take care of her child while being abused. The help is out there please find it.
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