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So a week ago I posted a post asking If I was a bad person, becasue I slept with someone elses fianece. She made the starting move and I declined but she kept trying and well I gave. Anyway the new, news is that we have still been hanging out and well the other day she said I LOVE YOU. She also said that she wasn't suppose to fall in love with me but she did and well shes telling her fiance tomorrow as seeing as hes coming down to visit her. Now as for whats going to happen I have not a clue but I'm supprised she said I love you I thought I would crack first but I didn't and don't want to tell her I love you back untill I know what exactly how I feel. I think its love but not 100% sure. All I know is its a feeling I have never had before in my life. I would also like to note that seeing as I knew and know her for awhile or know her friends I know that this is not something she normally does nor has ever done in her life. What do you all think?
If you want to explore this relationship do so with open eyes.She cheated on a fiancee with you so I wouldn't rush headlong into anything on just a gut feeling (LUST). I personaly wouldn't believe a thing she says but I can tell you won't listen to that advice! So go slow and protect your heart and don't just give it away to be stomped on. YOUR choice.
Once a cheat always a cheat - just remember that. She cheated on her fiance with you. she probably told her fiance she loved him too (once upon a time) and still slept with you !!!!
HI,
Many say "I love you", and really don't even know the meaning of the words....it takes time to know if one really loves another. More time for some; like a couple of years. Less time for others, maybe months.
"Infatuation" seems to be the word for some, when they think it's love.
Give this some time, a few months, before you decide one way or another.
I do wish you the best, and good luck.
Is there more to the conversation? You said you two have been friends for a while-has it been years? Maybe she has loved you for a long time but never knew how to tell you...
Then again, some people really think they are in love with someone, and then as time goes on, they begin to realize that maybe they don't. Like the others are saying, just be careful and go slow with this one.
As I always say - once a cheater - always a cheater. I have never seen a cheater stop cheating. It's a gene built into them and they really show no remorse. I am sure she hasn't told she feels bad being with you because of her fiancee.
This is LUST AND SMITTEN....nothing more. Love takes MONTHS to grow.
She just told him tonight because he just came into town and I don't know the outcome yet I'll find out in the morning, but no matter what I don't think she used me and well if she did maybe there was a reason for it. Like a life lesson and its one I won't regret and definitly learned from, or maybe its more maybe shes breaking it off with him, maybe something might happen, maybe not you don't know and neither do I so don't assume anything. I learnt that the hard way. People change, don't assume the worst its not always like that in fact usually its no where near as bad as you think it is. And I did know her for as long as I can remeber but that doesn't mean that I would stay away from her I liked her before and well maybe something told me to get involved. I believe everything happens for a reason so whatever reason this was for Im not sure but I will find out one day and until then why do you have to be so harsh. Look at it in a different light and think before you open up your moulth.
A lot of women want or need that one last fling - MEN AS WELL. Marriage is a lot bigger commitment than you think.....people get scarred and run to the arms of the next person....and cheat. Seen it MANY times.
You've taken one side and keep defending this gal (a gal I wouldn't have ANYTHING to do withever) - the gal I suspect, and this why I am harsh, will break your heart. You're defend a liar and cheater - not good qualities you want in a relationship.
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