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My name is Duncan I am 21 years old and my gf is 25 kathleen things happen yesterday night when we were arguing! actually yesterday I pretty much loss my job! She is a pretty bossy and aggressive type person who easily triggers my emotions she is truly always emotion and cry herself and say I am wrong always! She doesn't write me in her diary, she doesn't tell her friends that I am her bf or her family doesn't know! she doesn't tell me who her friends are that is what I am so pysche up about! but she is perfect she considers me but not always she consider herself more and her money more than me! Whenever I want to tell her something she will automactically say it is my own problem and I am a man and I should fix my own problem! she is the aggressive bossy type! But that is not always the case But is it bz of age or what! I did something I shouldn't have done yesteday by hitting her when she tick me off! now she says she is scared of me and ignore my calls! And say I lose her already she will never come back! What can I do? I truly love her and don't want to lose her!
This was a TERRIBLE relationship to begin with. First of all she did not love you. Period, end of story....
She did not respect you, and from reading this post, you did not respect you.
Never let someone treat you this way!!!
Am I correct in reading that she was your boss at work? If that is the case then she did not want anyone to know about your relationship. She was also compelled to be your boss at home.
But you will learn from this. NEVER HIT A WOMAN!!!!!
This is a classic example of how the dysfunctional hook up with the dysfunctional. If you don't change who you are, that is what you get stuck with, plain and simple. Its hard to imagine how you two loved each other unless you both are willing to confuse love with tolerate. The unspoken bargain you struck is "you'll tolerate her abuse and so she should tolerate yours". Only now she has withdrawn her end of the deal! Without question, a healthy man would run from this woman. And by the same token no woman is safe with you - - and now you know it. Please do yourself a BIG favor Duncan and seek professional help immediately..... just like everyone is suggesting. You do NOT have to stay stuck where you are! I know this as a fact, as a firsthand fact of someone who went from very messed up to healthy with professional help.
I agree with Valinor's Sorrow here, but also had to spread some love around...
You really need to clear out your head a little bit. IE: Get help!
And what do you mean she doesn't "write you in her diary", your English is a little unclear at times. Do you mean: She doesn't make time for you OR she doesn't write about you in her personal journal.
Sounds to me like you have been seriously intruding on her privacy, if it's the second example. No wonder she gets emotional with you. You have to give people some space here, and let them have their own lives. I wouldnt be rushing to introduce anyone that possessive to my family either, they would be very upset for me!
What do you mean she considers her money more than you? This is another unclear statement. What do you expect from her? I think you have already lost her, but I DO think you need to look at what you think a relationship should be giving you. Perhaps you are asking a LOT of dedication.
You never hit a girl. No matter how angry, no matter what. As far as her behaviour she was obvously using you and does not really care for you. You say you love and care for her but you abused her. ITS OVER.
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