I dont know what to do?

abdulilah · #1 Feb 26, 2007, 03:12 PM

i really need some advice i love her and she love's me but i cant stand her anymore not that im bored it just look all i wanted from the beggning is to make her happy, put a smile on her face, and make her forget all her problem.
but she keeps pushing me into a place were i cant breath, i'm soo nice to her soo good with her soo gental caring there is nothing i havent done for her.
im not saying she's a bad person no let me explain, when im sad she might ask whats wrong and she might egnor, when i need her she might be there to help and she might be there too make it worse i cant leave her i know that cuz i love her soo much, every time i storm out on her i come back within the min and kiss her try to make her feel better when i feel soo bad inside. what should i do every day i want to cry but when i see her i try to be nice and happy for her, she has family problems and i try to forget my own for her i really cant stand it anymore help me.

zephyrus888 · Feb 26, 2007, 06:31 PM

I agree with Talaniman. Go somewhere alone together or find things that you like to do together to spend more time , just the two of you and do the talking.

abdulilah · Feb 27, 2007, 03:16 AM

forget it i broke up with her today and i feel soo good she dosnt desreve me,
al i did today was tryied to make her happy,
i sent her "good morning i miss you soo much i cant wait to hear your voice"
she sent me "ok" so i said no problem i speed to the uni so i can see her,
i call her she's at the mall i ask her why did you not tell me, she said i didnt want you to come i dont feel like seeing you but now i think i want you to come,
so i went she was with her friends i took her away told her i need to talk to you,
at the end she did come i took her outside and told her to sit she didnt want to i told ok i breaking up with you,
you dont deserve me and you should be great full that i was with you,
all you do is treat me bad and think your some one important well you are just cuz i mad you important, and them i told but let me tel you i love you that all,
she sent me a msg saying i didnt want you to come cuz i wanted to buy you a prezent,
and i was treating you bad cuz i was in a bad mood,
so i said you know what your lying my b-day is in 2 months so dont lie other than that just stop actin like you tough i opened my heart showed you all my emotions you just blocked,
i said bye to her friends and i left, and omg do i feel sooooooooo good i wanted to take your advice but she was just tooo bad to me. and well i dont know if this means anything but i'm soooooooo happy and i dont think i love her anymore.

abdulilah · Feb 28, 2007, 03:05 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by talaniman

I doubt you loved her in the first place.

i disagree cuz i called her today i needed to know why she did this to me and get me to get to a point where the only way for me to feel good was leaving her,
she didnt answer i called one more time she didnt answer then i sent her a msg i said "i just called to cheak on you cuz i heard you cryed last night and couldnt go to sleep i just wanted to know if your ok" she sent me a msg that said " what do you want" i didnt answer and then she called my best friend and she started say that she got over me and stuff so he said he love's you but you didnt desrve him and she said your right and she also knew that it was her lose not mine i win and i will always be better than anyone as long as i try my best to be in the good side and not hurt anyone i belive in karma i really do and what happend between me and her is cuz of somthing i did 4 years ago and i desrve this but she will never desrve me. ohh ya one more thing i say i dont love her anymore cuz of one big reson i think that it was more lust that love and you want the truth thats the mistake in all of this dont you agree.

Choosy · Mar 1, 2007, 06:45 AM

That's a similar case to mine.These kind of gals don't know the objectives of their life.You keep on forcing the issues all the time, but they don't respond in a manner that you want.Sometimes you feel like that you are taliking to a stone or a person who doesn't have heart.The best option for such a relation is to break-up.Because sooner or later it's going to happen.And it will be much better,if you yourself ask for break-up.Because it will keep your self-esteem high.She doesn't deserve your feelings or care.Great thing is done by you.Keep it up

abdulilah · Mar 1, 2007, 04:08 PM

thank you very much for understanding and knowing what im going through other than that at the end of the day if i'm happier now than when i was with her then it was the right choice. thanks alot owe you one.

Jesushelper76 · Mar 1, 2007, 04:20 PM

First thing is first. There is a lot about her. Not anything about you. When you love somebody so much and your so giving, and you do not get anything back eventually your going to lose yourself in this mess and it will not be worth all of the feelings you have now. This can be a toxic relationship that you might be better off getting out of.

Now, before jumping the gun on what I wrote I want you to COMMUNICATE your feelings to her. Instead of telling us about how you feel, you need to sit her down and have a heart to heart. Honestly I felt the way you felt. I have been in your situation and eventually everything did work out but BOTH people in the relationship need to be open and honest with each other about there feelings.

So first advice is to COMMUNICATE exactly how you are feeling and why. If you continue holding these things in. Eventually you are going to blow. Eventually your going to start resenting her and get to the point where you want out. So please tell her exactly how you feel. That you give it your all, you do your best with her and her family situation and you want to continue being there for her. At the same time you want her to be open to your thoughts and feelings and be more attentive. I am sure you will find your own words and from your own heart.

Walking out and storming out. Is not going to solve anything at all. This will make matters worse. Yes, many people cope with stress differently and arguements differently but you both need to learn how each other copes and actually compromise and make an agreement on how each other needs to share how they feel, but instead of storming out I am going to calm down first but need to talk and whatever you need to have her do to help you cope with your feelings, as well as letting her share hers. Without it being only one way all the time.

Best of luck with you.

Joe



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