Well I'm 20 years old, my girlfriend is 22 and we've been dating since we were in high school. Ive been with her 4 years but on and off, which actually is equal to about 2 years or so. All the time we were together we would always fight for stupid things and break up. I loved her allot and I did everything possible to be with her again. I would break up with her and I missed her allot, but then I was with her and we just had too many problems. Then we would end up back together like 2 or 3 months later then we would break up again 2 months later. And aging she would look for me or I would look for her because we couldn't be without each other. It has been like this all this time. We would have sex like only 3 times a month, but it was no problem for me since I think I love her very much and after 4 years on and off we have been together for a record in our relationship 7 months without fighting or anything.in fact it went so far that I don't even talk that much with my friends because I spend all the time giving all the attention to her and I use to be known as a party boy.

The problem now is that all this time I haven't had a fight with her because well we never go out, when we do, we just fight because I drank too many beers or because I dance funny or whatever, so I rather stay home with her. Then we can't go to the movies because all she wants to see is chic flicks. I mean, I have no problem with those movies but I think its only fair that she could choose one time and then I can choose the next. But sadly we can never work it out and we just fight. Again we stay at my house and watch TV all day. I can't give my opinion for certain things because I'm always wrong and she's always right. By now I'm just tired of all this, and just don't care anymore. I mean she comes to my house everyday we make out she gives me a hand job almost everyday and then she leaves. At night I don't see her because she works, and in the day well I'm at school.
I actually don't see the point in this relationship because I almost never see her and I don't miss her a bit. When I see her well I know that I'm at least getting a hand job so I just go with the flow. When she talks she annoys me allot. When she calls me I can only stand to talk like 10 minutes with her unless I need advice on something or if I get bored. I know she is really in love with me because she is saving money so that one day we can have this big wedding, she brings lunch to my house, and well she's always saying how much she loves me.

Here's the big problem. She already wants to get married, and like I said before I think I love her but I'm not sure anymore because of all this that's happening lately. My mom says she would make a perfect wife, she already is saving for the kids, for a house, she knows how to cook really awesome, she already makes 50 dollars an hour as a speech therapist, and well she gets along with my sisters and my mom really great. I love the idea of all that, and I really don't know if another girl like this is going to come along, but in the end none of this matters since I don't even know if I love her anymore and the hardest part is that I always say yes to everything. She wants to move in together next year and I said yes. She's really excited and now I don't know what to do.

miek, better put the breaks on, you are getting cold feet from all the wedding, moving in talk and you hear that she is just about perfect for you from a family standpoint. So deck is stacked against you and unless you call time out, it is going to be a disaster.

Don't just go along for the ride because she has to learn how to communicate with you, and you her. Too much drama going on to make a happy situation. She has to know that a relationship is not all one-sided and it appears to me, that's the way she thinks. She is not taking you as you are, and that is not a good thing.

If your doubting your feelings, then you don't love her. You two are use to each other, but neither of you knows what to do, or how to treat ech other.
Neither of you is ready for marriage seems to me, I mean, you barely have a working relationship.

You need to seriously express your true feelings to her, and not get caught up in "going with the flow". That's no way to live your life.

Um you already know that you are not in love with her anymore so you know what you got to do
Regardless of all her good qualities, life is happens too suddenly to stay unhappy.
Don't move in, no matter what - moving SUCKS I'm serious, then you fight, stuff gets broken, the whole 9
And p.s you are 20! Jeez, go have fun while you still can. She's maturing faster than you ( not a this, a fact) I hate to admit it (cause I don't want to admit it to myself) but that biological clock of hers is ticking... sounds like she is steamrolling down that road...
Bottom line- stay with her, get married, have kids-SOON - sound like fun? No
Can you picture spending the rest of your life with that nagging voice? Regret, my friend, turns bitter and resentful - bottle up these emotions and nothing good can come from it