Well I just found out the my boyfriend was keeping secrets from me,him and I haven't had sex in 2 1/2 months.. I had a feeling he was doing something but I didn't know what it was.. I found a screenname and a password of his and I went online to check it out.. and what I found was horrible.. he was sending emails to a girl saying he loves her and he wants to be with her.and I found other nasty things like naked pictures that girls sent him.omg it was nasty.. I confronted him about it and he said that all of the stuff I found was his friends and he was doing him a favor... im sorry but I don't by it at all.. I just wanted to go home.. I moved to Florida to be with him and I left my family back home in NY.. I told him we can work this out but he has to figure out how to fix it but he say he can't cause he doesn't know how... what an excuse... he still talks mean to me and I keep telling him that talking to me that way doesn't help the situation it makes it worse it makes me not want to be with him.. and on top of that now he want to see what I'm doing on my computer.. if he wasn't so secrective and distant I wouldn't have to go through his thing,I'm just glad I found out now then later.. but I don't know what to do my feeligs for him has changed but I want to work things out, but another part of me want to leave and go back home an be with people who love me I don't know what to do I need some serious advice :confused:

If this is real to you,LEAVE!

Once the thought of questioning your partners honesty comes into the picture it's not going to leave.period.

No marriage,no sex,no trust,how much more do you need?

I can't tell your age,but does this sound like someone you want to spend the rest of your days (and lonely nights)with?

There are too many good men out there for you to be stuck with one you don't trust.

KBC

Go home! He is not ready to commit to you or anybody else for that matter. It might be humiliating to go home, but the alternative is you becoming a person you don't want to be. Get out now please.

O yea I forgot to mention I'm 21

AHH the '87 gave you away... lol:)

Yeah it's completely up to you, you caught him red-handed if you think it's him which it most likely is but it's your call to walk or not, but you would have to put this behind you and never bring it up again in the relationship when something happens. Can you do that?

Go home, and enjoy your life without him, as if neither of you knows what to do, or how to act in a relationship, what's the point?

If he doesn't know what to do, and you can't tell him what you want, no way will you be able to work together.

You should break it of and go home. He doesn't seem to appreciate you at all and he doesn't deserve you!

MAN! If I found that I would already be gone. The trust has been broken and it takes way to long to fix it.. every time he goes on the computer you are going to wonder, everything he's even an hour late, you are going to wonder, even if he doesn't answer his cellphone, you are going to wonder... do you think you deserve to go through that pain?? No way go to NY and find a new guy! I heard there's lots of cute and successful guys there :P

You don't buy it, I definitley don't buy it so its time to leave!
This guy is is treating you like you're an idiot if he thinks you will believe a lie as absurd as this. Either that, or he's an idiot which means he's not good enough for you.
He's not going to change for you if this is how he's constantly behaves. Besides if he cheated on you than he doesn't respect you and he's not going to listen to your requests.

And even if he does it will only be temporary.

You're still young; don't feel obligated to "fix" this guy for the girl he's cheating on you with.