| Does she really love me after almost 4 years? Shes says shes reserved.
Sorry for the long story just been a long relationship.
Im so confused ive now been with my well nearly 4 years. I met her when i was 24 and she was 18. Its been the perfect relationship. She is a university student and i sjustabout to finish up her degree and i think thats great. Ive been working i it for a while and i hut cant help sake the feeling shes been depending on mw for a long time.
Heres my story we both used to work together for a bit casually and we hooked up with a bit of good work from me. At first she didnt seem all that keen and actually said she didnt really want a relationship although 1 week before she kissed me she was seeing another guy from work for a month no sex though, but apparently he only wanted that and she was more interested in a relationship. Anyway 6 weeks later we finally slept together after a few nights out with friends anddrinks and a bit of pashing.
Anyway sex was amazing she had only slept with one other guy but she wasgreat everything was flying so i a month later said did you want to go out she replied NO! I thought ok well thats good shes hot and im still going out with friends having fun so it was all good. She sais ses not interested in aserious relationip andwant looking for a husband so i thought UMM.. well thats strange considering she wanted a relationship with the other guy but thought ok good for me... I was a bit confused so got a friend from work to ask her how are you and luke going you going out and she told them Nah He will probly just dump me soon or get boredwith me anyway. So i was confused by that thinking maybe she wants to go out but thinks i will hjust end up dumping her if we go out. So realtionship went on and everything was fine 3 months later at a friends party she said to me when we got home oh i suppose you ar my boyfriend. So it was official from then . Anyhw ourreltionship went fine from there. Although she would always talk about things like when i find my husband and so fourth which was an issue with me, maybe she was hinting and tryingto bate me. I wondered and sometimes said well if you are thinking of when i find my husband you better go and find him why be with me and she would say stuff like, "well Im not sure what i want yet" anyway after 2 years went by one night i was in her bed and something cane up about marriage and she said that she did not think i was the one she wanted to marry.
I was so confused 2 years and this. Well i souyghyt of questioned it and she said well nothuing lasts forever and i said wellwhat are we even together for if you are thinking like this... She said but im not sure about it yet i woldnt still be with you if i wasnt thinking of staying with you would I, I would beout looking. So that confised me more...
Few months went by and things again changed she was so happy and started telling me how happy she was and could seeus being together. Few months later she is talking about kids and engagement. Wow i thought things were going well. So 3 months later well and truly into our relationship she wants a breaak declaring shes not sure what she wants. so we have a break and she says she misses me and still wants to be with me. One month later she is telling me she hasnt felt this good i a long time and loves me heaps. Another 2 months go bye and i mentionedone night when we were out about marriage and she says i dont want to talk about it we are just seeing what happens.... I was confused again thinking well this seems o be dragging on and the problem was she was now 22 years old and well after this long she should begin to know what she wants, AQlthough from some posts here it looks like young girls dont. So it all seems great time has gone on and its been another 8 months.
My problem is she is now 22 1/2 and really im not sure what she wants after nearly 4 years i try and mention it but dont want to push it. I really think she should no what she wants but im starting to think she may have just stayed with me while she has been at uni and it spmetimes seems as if she will leave when she feels more confident and gets her carreer. I have told her before if you want someone else you can go and thats fine i understand and she says i only want you.
Problem is she very rarely shows this and does not talk about love very much and she says im just reserved and you should no that by now. She does not have alot of friends but is startingto make more now, she is very hot and gets hit on alot, which im not worried about cause she is very honest.
I just feel she is with me till shes ready to leave although in saying thsi whenever she has uni nights out she always invites me and takes me to all the events but sometimes when she talks about he future she never talks about us as a future she seems to always talk about herself. Sometims i think she is scared of what i might say if she staryts talking about us. BUt she knows i lke her alot but she just wont open up and maybe she just doesnt really want all this..
I dont know what to do is and has she been keeping me because i must add she isnt a stalker girl but does like to send a msg at night and says she likes to talk before she goes to bed , which is fine by me... Im left a bit in the cold what i should do its hard o talk to her about it cause she sought of says we are just seing what happens... But almost 4 years that is a long time and i dont really want to hang around if it isnt going anywhere...
Things seem to be ok now but im just not sure what to do from here, if shenot sure does that mean shes waiting for the right time to go. Yet she always says I miss youand she does miss me i think... We are also very active 3 to 4 times a week so there is no problem there and she is always wanting to see me, but i just get this bad feeling like im on a timeline...
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