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By now most of you are aware of my situation. I got many signs of closure but today i am having a down day and i need another if it is there.
All of you must know tht 5 steps of grief and how they work, well in the past couple of weeks i took several steps forward but today i am taking one back.
In your experience? regardless of the fact that she was with another guy and she did cheat on me, do you think she still misses me at all or even still slightly think about me?
Again i am only asking to try and make myself feel better, this will not make me call her or want her back in any way as its been 3 weeks now and no contact non so ever YAY.
Thanks guys i hope our answers will make my day =)
Whether she missed you or not, what difference would it make to you. Would it really really make you feel any better.
If you found out she missed you, you would probably end up back to square one, instead of taking further the right steps of grief.
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If you found out she does not miss you, you will definitley feel worse of.
So think about it... do you really wanna know??
Sometimes its best not knowing..... the truth hurts.
We all remember our first, second and third...it is the way of life...if the experiences were good or bad we will remember...remembrance is that ...that gives us a reason to continue on...if she is a kind person...she will remember the good old days...right... what is good is you moving on...like I tell many people after a break up...the word up...meaning you will move up...let's not stay down...that sort of feeling /situation will do you and any one else no good...move on ...yell to yourself ...Next!... did that feel good...do you feel better...empower yourself...go the salon and have a facial, hair-cut, ped and manicure...buy a new out fit... or press out one in the closet...go and get the next one...improve yourself by paying attention to you...
trust me guys, i never asked the above question because i want her back in any way.
You all know that at the moment i miss her, and the hardest part about all this is the fear of the unknown and which is i dont know if she misses me.
and to answer your question yeah i would feel better if she misses me and no it would not prompt me to contact her. on the other hand is she dosent then i would not be surprised so it wont make it worse.
I will never know for sure because i a not asking her friends, i am asking you guys, but i guess no one knows for sure =(
Personally I think you are better than that. You deserve much better than a cheater. There is no excuse for that type of behaviour. It sounds like you are moving on, just keep going. There is someone out there way better for you. Three weeks will turn into 4 weeks, then 2 months and soon you will not think of her at all except to say, that you are glad to be outta there.
I think she probably misses you a bit. Anytime there is a change in someone's life there is an adjustment period. That doesn't mean she would want you back, but I'm sure you are in her thoughts.
I think you are doing great. Just keep on going forward. Take care.
Kadd -- the grief process is always three steps forward, one step back for everyone so please lower expectations about it and your progress, okay? Secondly, what you miss is not her but what the two of you had, for a time, which is now gone-- completely and totally gone. It is gone whether you got her back, even. So tell yourself the truth in this one and let the healing really be what it is -- over the loss of that, not her. My condolences on your loss too. Lastly, we all think about our past lovers. But how we think about them doesn't define who they are, they do that all by themselves. So know that even if she thought of you often and fondly or hardly and bitterly, you still are who you are because of YOU.
Now go outside and look up into the sky a while -- the fresh air will do you good and its important to remind ourselves while grieving that its still a big wide world out there full of wonderous things, okay? It will be okay eventually, it really will.
It's hard to say whether or not she misses you or thinks about you now or not. But she will have her regrets eventually. Sooner or later she'll come to realize that she made poor choices and has to deal with the consequences of those choices. Meanwhile, you just keep getting on with your own life and don't look back ; you know the drill.
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