does she loves me ?

innocent_diva · #1 Feb 1, 2008, 07:14 AM

hey guys
ok i met a girl which i really felt that i falled in love with her
i catched her many times looking at me and i felt that she cares about me but i've never talked with her before
one day i saw her so i talked 2 her for the first time and asked her number and she gave it to me
the other day i told her that i liked her then she told me that ok we can be friends and nothing more than friends
then i started 2 talk with her a flatter her so she told me that she doesn't go on romantic relationships and she told me that she wanna be friends only
then one day we had a little fight and i told her that i don't want to talk with her and did the biggest mistake and told her that i loved her
then i was like don't want 2 be friends but she worked hard 2 get me back as a friend
now we'r talking about 1o hours a day messgaing in the phone but i don't know if she loves me or no !?!! she told me that she wants me 2 stop telling her sweet words and she wants only friendship ..
i didn't send her today and she didn't send me ..so when i stop sending i don't know if she's gonna send me or no .. guys i need help .. i need to know if she loves me in someway or if she doesn't i love her so much so if she doesn't i better just move on
thanks

EuRa · Feb 1, 2008, 07:22 AM

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she told me that ok we can be friends and nothing more than friends

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she told me that she wanna be friends only

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she worked hard 2 get me back as a friend

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she told me that she wants me 2 stop telling her sweet words and she wants only friendship ..

I don't know what you want from us. She's made it very clear over and over that she won't be in a relationship with you. She may say things like "i love you", but she only means it as a friend. She may say things that confuse you here and there, but the ABOVE BOLDED STATEMENTS can be taken at face value. Friends, nothing more.

If you really want to learn about her, what she's thinking, what she means, etc, READ THIS:

The Ladder Theory

It will answer everything. It will paint it out for you what she's doing. If you really want to know what's going on, you'll read that above link.

lickemlolly · Feb 1, 2008, 07:22 AM

ok listen, she has told you in more ways than one she is not interested. she doesnt love you. stop forcing yourself on her. she obviously doesnt want a relationship just your friendship and if you are any kind of a friend you should accept that. stop trying to chase her its really not helping the situation and in the end you will end up losing her friendship all together.

c23 · Feb 1, 2008, 07:26 AM

ok maybe deep in her she wants try to talk to her and ask her y she doesnt wanna be wor maybe ask her friendz...

hopr thid helps [=

TrueFaith · Feb 1, 2008, 07:31 AM

i know lots of girls that say lets just be friends

and then they end up just banging you when they have had a few to much to drink..
not the typ of girls you should go with

however this girl has made it pretty clear man

Give your self respect and self worth a boost and leave her alone

it will just hurt if you stay by her to much my friend
feelings are very hard to shake off

good luck

duck22 · Feb 1, 2008, 07:32 AM

My impression is that you guys are young and barely know each other yet. take a step back and dont pressure her into anything, it will only hurt you down the road. respect her wishes to remain friends. Maybe down road her feelings (or maybe yours) will change and you can go one way or the other, just take it easy and dont try to force her because you will only loose her if you do that.

innocent_diva · Feb 1, 2008, 11:43 PM

thnaks guys
but what really confusing me that she always say friendship is all she wants but sometimes she make things & say things shows me that she want's more than friends ..
she didn't say that she loves me ..i'm just afraid that she's being nice 2 me and don't wanna hurt me ....i don't know

anyway ..so do u think that i should stop messgaing her daily? so act with her like just a friend and stop sending her messages daily??

innocent_diva · Feb 1, 2008, 11:44 PM

or should i continue messgaing with her .. i really don't want 2 lose her ..
i told her that i don't want more than friends any more ..but still don't know what to do

Greg Quinn · Feb 2, 2008, 12:21 AM

If you can't change your feelings for her then I think you should maybe take a little break. One day she will meet a guy that she wants to "be more than friends with" and I wonder how you would feel about that? You said "ACT with her like just a friend" you really shouldn't have to act at all... After everything I've read here it really seems unhealthy what you are setting yourself up for.
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From the beginning you seem to be lacking in the understanding of her obvious position here. Would it be safe to say you may be reading to deeply into things now, misunderstanding? If not, and her intention is to play with you're mind like that, then... What kind of sick person would try to hurt you in such a way? Either way I think its not really a winning scenario to torture yourself.



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