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I was wondering what is your opinion or thoughts on this situation, I went through a couple of months ago (in 2006).
It was nearing the end of my first year at University, I was dancing on the last night the pub was open; suddenly, I saw a good-looking, kind of modest girl and I got the opportunity to dance with her inside the club. Then after we danced for what seemed to be an eternity in paradise, we went outside for a walk around campus, exchanging stories - getting to know each other and we walked back to our campus college - took her back to her room and I went back to mine.
Later on (couple of days later or so), we had gotten to know each other and it had been raining outside, so we went out for a walk and she expressed her likeness of puddle-jumping. I was a bit shy to jump any puddles, but I walked over them anyway (good thing I had water proof shoes) and after those sweet moments, we went back up to her room and just sat on her bed, talking - then there came that infamous silence, our eyes locked. She was looking at me and smiling, my heart was racing so fast - I couldn't believe it, and every instinct inside of me was screaming at me to go for it.
BOOM. I had my first kiss, it was intense. The rush was unreal, I couldn't believe I was in an unending dream.
Eventually, that dream crashed when she was sitting quietly in her room, I remember she felt guilty about what happened and in that moment, I realized that she was already in love with another guy - and it's a long distance relationship. Here's the kicker, she's due to marry him after University.
I spent 10 months getting over her, built a wall around my damaged heart because I don't want to go through all that again. Guess what? she won't easily be forgotten because she's in one of my classes, and it seems like all I can do is just to ignore her. Life is never that easy.
And now, I know I won't ever fall in love again, but I can like new girls but I've learned to be cautious and careful. Since then, I've never felt the same, all because of one girl; but I've learned to move on, and met new girls along the way. I don't think love exist, but hey might as well have fun meeting someone new.
Yes, love exists and you will no doubt experience it one day. You had a bad experience here and you are feeling down, but you can't discredit all womankind and love altogether because of one girl who disappointed you. Not to minimize your feelings here, but this was probably so special to you because it was your first kiss. This was a very short term thing. You will experience so much more when you meet the right girl and have a real meaningful relationship.
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Love does exist but it can be confused sometimes for other feelings such as lust..but real love really does exist. Nobody can tell you that you are 'in love' you just know it. It is something I can't really put into words or at least I would find it difficult to describe. I also believe that you can fall in love more than once, either with the same person or with a new person. I am not sure of the concept of falling out of love because my take on this would be that if you were truly in love with someone, would you not carry the love inside for the rest of you life?
When we are young and the world is new to us we discover feelings for the first time and they are so strong and powerful we can hardly stand it. But then LIFE shows us what reality is about and we start to pay closer attention to the things around us and are not so overwhelmed by it all and learn how to cope with people, places, and things on a level as to protect ourselves some what. We go thru many trials and tribulations and thrills, and chills, along the way until one day we are awakened by one of those really clear realities that we love someone and are loved the same way in return. That's when the whole damn world changes and you could care less about anything except what you and yours are doing. How do you know your in love????? When you wake up 30 years and a few kids and gran-kids later and tell your still there, but somewhat gray headed partner, I LOVE YOU, STILL!!!
What a memorable first kiss you have had. It brings a smile to my face, and someday, when you look back, it will for you as well. I don't even remember my first kiss, that may be because I was holding my breath so tight, it's possible I passed out, and would explain my not being able to remember.
Oh love certainly does exsist and right now you are , whether you know it or not, traveling on the road towards it. All these life experiences that you are having along the way, will be of such benefit when you do get to the point of the road, where love is just there, waiting for you. Why do you have to go through bumps in the road, in order to get to the one who loves you and you love in return? Very good question (if I do say so myself LOL)
Well, I am a believer that the bumps make you stronger, help you to get to know yourself better, so that when you reach that point in the road, where that special one has reached that same point, at that same time, you will be able to give, receive and know what true love actually is. You will know yourself so well, and be able to give of who you truly are.
Right now, this may all be mubo jumbo for you, and that's okay. Just don't be discouraged, and it's okay to have your guard up a bit, and your eyes open, and your heart reserved for only that special someone. Nothing wrong with that. This is your growing time. This is your time, to go out there and explore, learn and by goodness, have fun! So smile, not only have you had the most memorable first kiss I have ever heard about, you are at a fantastic point in your life, where all you have to do, is be open to learning and experiencing. Go forth and enjoy!!!
yes love does exsist, you might not think so but it is, and i no that it will be hard to get over because it was for me too. when i had my first everything with this guys, i felt as though we would be together forever,but that didnt happen soonly after he dumped me for another person he said i wasn't his type. i was upset for several months just like u , but i learned to move on, its hard but it will happen, i promise u have my word.
Love may exist but is mainly an illusion which is created with th right works. People believ you just love thm that much but normally there are reasons for someone to feel so dep for another person andive putthis down to the main fact of missing someone. Without thefeelingof missing someone there will not be alot of LOVE, the main ingredient as a relationship unfolds is misssingthe other person and believingyou need them in your life andthis mainly ocurs when they leave. People will say i am so in love with him or her andthis may be true but is definately created. Not sayingthere is Love but I dont really believe there is actual love without cetain points. Thismay sound hard to understand but I definately believe if you are in arelationship you can make the other person who is interested in you that is the reasonthey arewith you to fall for you totally which tells themselves they are in lovewith you. Proof that love does not really exist is thefact that marriages break up because feelingschange ifLOVE was true then feelings would not change you would LOVEthat person forever. Yet saying all this I was truly in love with my ex before we decided to break up! But I understood the reasons I LOVED her they were notbecause she wasnt around I just liked her for who she was. I may be contradicting myself ere because I justsaid I was in LOVE which means it does exist but can be ard to find.
Anyway after ive rambled on for a while down i suppose ive talked myself into believingthere is love after all!!!!
there is such a thing as love it just cannot be explainied, you had a very nice and memorable first kiss i would not forget it if i were you, you had a bad experience but dont let that close your heart to the feeling and notion of love, yes it will be hard but you must move on she is betrothed and you feel but you will fall in love again this time with someone who will love you back for who you are, in answer to your question love does exist and it is a rare and special thing to find.
Well, I can say that you have had a most incredible, earth shattering, wonderful, experience. It sucks that it had to end like it did. Talk about cruel. I know how you feel, but in a different way. I think you should look at this experience as a life changing event. It opened your heart and exposed you, and you went with it. You would rather have one minute of something so extraordinary, than a lifetime of nothing. What a special gift. There is no way to feel better about it ending. Life has a funny way of smacking you in the face. It will be painful for a long time, because it was such a critical moment for you. It doesn't mean it won't happen again, it will. You don't want it to happen right now because you still care about her. That's o.k. Don't deny the feelings, you will only feel worse. Allow yourself the time to feel sad about what happened. Ignoring her must be killing you. Maybe just smile at her sometime. You might feel better. She didn't mean to hurt you. She probably really felt connected and liked you, but she is a loyal person to who she is already with. That has to count for something! She let herself get close to you, and then she began to feel guilty. Well, at least you had a moment to remember. I can tell you that you would regret it more if you didn't. That kiss is something no one can take away. I say you try to just be yourself around her. It may be painful, but maybe she feels really bad too. Forgiveness will make your heart ache less. Maybe she won't get married, maybe she will, but you won't ever forget her. That is o.k. This isn't the last time you will experience love, this was just your first so it is monumental. I think it's beautiful and I am glad you shared it. Let your guard down a little, you are keeping everyone at such a distance. The heart needs to be opened up, even when it hurts. IT hurts more to try and shut your emotions off. Be courageous, and let people see that heart of yours!!
and after those sweet moments, we went back up to her room and just sat on her bed, talking - then there came that infamous silence, our eyes locked. She was looking at me and smiling, my heart was racing so fast - I couldn't believe it, and every instinct inside of me was screaming at me to go for it.
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