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I was wondering what is your opinion or thoughts on this situation, I went through a couple of months ago (in 2006).
It was nearing the end of my first year at University, I was dancing on the last night the pub was open; suddenly, I saw a good-looking, kind of modest girl and I got the opportunity to dance with her inside the club. Then after we danced for what seemed to be an eternity in paradise, we went outside for a walk around campus, exchanging stories - getting to know each other and we walked back to our campus college - took her back to her room and I went back to mine.
Later on (couple of days later or so), we had gotten to know each other and it had been raining outside, so we went out for a walk and she expressed her likeness of puddle-jumping. I was a bit shy to jump any puddles, but I walked over them anyway (good thing I had water proof shoes) and after those sweet moments, we went back up to her room and just sat on her bed, talking - then there came that infamous silence, our eyes locked. She was looking at me and smiling, my heart was racing so fast - I couldn't believe it, and every instinct inside of me was screaming at me to go for it.
BOOM. I had my first kiss, it was intense. The rush was unreal, I couldn't believe I was in an unending dream.
Eventually, that dream crashed when she was sitting quietly in her room, I remember she felt guilty about what happened and in that moment, I realized that she was already in love with another guy - and it's a long distance relationship. Here's the kicker, she's due to marry him after University.
I spent 10 months getting over her, built a wall around my damaged heart because I don't want to go through all that again. Guess what? she won't easily be forgotten because she's in one of my classes, and it seems like all I can do is just to ignore her. Life is never that easy.
And now, I know I won't ever fall in love again, but I can like new girls but I've learned to be cautious and careful. Since then, I've never felt the same, all because of one girl; but I've learned to move on, and met new girls along the way. I don't think love exist, but hey might as well have fun meeting someone new.
Yea it exsists, but is it worth getting into??? Love is great until it goes wrong, which is when your world collapses. then you have to spend ages rebuilding while the person you was in love with (in most cases) gets on with there life a forgets you.
Love definately exsists, and I believe if it's true love it may very well last forever. I experienced a true unconditional love with my ex, he on the other hand didn't share the lasting forever part of our love. But my point is I know it exsists because even after all he has done to me in the last 2 months I still love him with all of my heart. The scary part is I also think at this point that the unconditional part still exsists too and I feel I might forgive him anything.
No, love is non-existent. Humans are condemned to suffer on Earth. The world is not worthy of love, therefore we are not. Love is just our thyroids producing hormones. Our hormones try to convince us that we really do love. We choose to let this theory that love exists because we have read faerie-tales and we have heard our entire lives and we wish to have the same relationship with our lover.
oh please... that is ridiculous. Love may not be existent in your life, and many people may suffer but to say the WORLD is not worthy of love. Where do you get that? How is the world not worthy? Hormones don't convince us of anything, they just remind us how we really do feel. Fairy tales aren't real, that is why they are tales and the only love you are referring to is between two lovers. You are saying babies are not worthy of love? Try telling a mother that about her newborn, or a mama bear caring for her cubs, that isn't love? It is what every person needs and desires, if it wasn't existent, than why would be here? Why are we condemned to suffer? Yes, we create the misery and all the greed and negativity in the world,. so if we suffer, it is because that is what we have reaped... that doesn't mean every living creature isn't worthy of love.
Love is something you must feel about yourself, before you can really love anyone else. It isn't about your boyfriend or your girlfriend, it is about loving yourself.. then loving the rest of the world. If you don't feel worthy of being loved by you, if makes it difficult for anyone else to love you, whether parents, friends, children, or lover...
I don't know anymore myself. I'm 39 years old and the first time I thought I had strong feelings for someone was just 2 years ago. Pathetic...I know. Most of my life I've been socially awkward but this one girl made me realize that I had to step out of my shell if I wanted any chance at potential true happiness. I tried hard to come out of my shyness, but in the end, she wasn't interested. I'm a lot better now in social situations, but it never goes away completely...especially around someone I'm attracted to. I truly believe she was turned off by my social ineptness. I have moved on for the most part, and the more I thought about it, what I was feeling was probably just lust. It sure felt like love, but I realize now it couldn't of been...cause if it was, it would of been a two way street. Like yourself, right now, I'm trying to figure out whether true love does exist. It's getting hard to believe that it does. Even though they say love can come at any time, at my age, it's getting more and more difficult to believe that it will ever happen. You want to stop believing to ease the pain, but by doing that, you cause more heartaches for yourself because you're giving in to loneliness. So you continue to hope....
I fell in Love, or whatever it is as we are debating its existence, when i was 16. It was love on first sight. I had that same feeling you described by just seeing the girl. Well, it never worked out and i was miserable all the time. Ofcourse i have spent months, years, thinking about it. And right now i am really confused whether love exists or not. My main concern is that love, the way i felt it, could just be some kind of dependency. If you dont need anybody else, if you stand on your own feet, know what you want and are self-sufficient.. why would you fall in love? you might really enjoy a person and like her and when it doesnt work out anymore you just let it go and live your life like you were. I now doubt that love should be this deep craving for a person. I am really confused. This experience has made me a very insecure, lost person in this big world. But i always had this hope and vision of something bigger, greater, more meaningful than the average, everyday life, where people dont really care about each other and .. Well, the question remains open. Is this hope just my need for somebody to be my mommy or will i find "the one"?. Would I have this hope, vision, idea of love if i was self-confident, socially strong, if i knew what i wanted and so on???
The whole story that led up to the "big kiss" was very moving almost like the mushy part of a romance novel. But it wasn't a happily ever after ending. That must have been a big blow to the ego mind to find out she is engaged. But think about it in this aspect. People in a long distance relationships get lonely sometimes for the attention of the opposite sex. She didn't do anything wrong pursay but she ended it before it went any further and caused an even bigger mess and hurt feelings.
Think about it...if she didn't stop it then and there you would still be here on this website only asking a different kind of question like, " Why doesn't she like me anymore," or " girlfirends bf wants to kick my arse!"
You'll never forget that first kiss and even though it was extremely intense and you saw fireworks....you'll feel even more of that when the real one comes into your life.
No, love is non-existent. Humans are condemned to suffer on Earth. The world is not worthy of love, therefore we are not. Love is just our thyroids producing hormones. Our hormones try to convince us that we really do love. We choose to let this theory that love exists because we have read faerie-tales and we have heard our entire lives and we wish to have the same relationship with our lover.
You have condemned yourself to suffer and made yourself unworthy of love. I can see that can you? Not that I am going to try and convince you otherwise unless you are willing to listen but it is those exact negative thoughts keeping you in a state of non existant love. No wonder people are so confused.
and after those sweet moments, we went back up to her room and just sat on her bed, talking - then there came that infamous silence, our eyes locked. She was looking at me and smiling, my heart was racing so fast - I couldn't believe it, and every instinct inside of me was screaming at me to go for it.
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