Does anyone ever get their Ex back after No Contact?

Yes 5 times? It's been 5 months and on this 6th breakup since we were engaged I contacted her after 2 months and still wanted to get married she said no. But I think she still wants to come back but looks like an idot for breaking up so many times with me.

It hurts so much I know, but NC is for yourself. Nobody can predict the future but the best thing is to get on with your own life and get happy alone.

My ex came back twice. It didn't work out. She came back within two weeks each time. The last time was 6 months ago and no luck yet.

NC will not work to get your ex back if the reason she broke up with you was because you hardly ever paid attention to her in the first place while in the relationship.

If you were not giving her affection, were not attentive to her needs, were not there when she needed you, there was lack of communication on your end, then how is NC going to work to draw her back?

Doing NC will just reinforce in her mind the reason she left you and it's because you didn't show her that you really loved her.

But if the reasons for the breakup were caused by you smothering her, clinginess/neediness, heated arguing, or she wants to date other guys, she wants space, you were a pushover, then I would say strict NC is the way to go for getting her back. Don't initiate contact. Answer one out of every 3-4 of her calls. Don't stay on the line for more than 2 minutes.

My point is there is no one size fits all strategy for getting an ex back. If you were a jerk in the relationship who was never there for her then I think you need to be in some contact to show her you are serious about fixing your issues. Maybe do NC for 1 week then send her flowers and a letter of apology. Why should she make the moves to get you back if you were the one who neglected her?

She may not take you back right away but is testing the waters with how much you have improved in your communication skills. So using the NC strategy will backfire in this case especially if she's a good woman who had every legitimate reason to leave.

It totally depends on the situation.

I have no idea. My husband and I split up for 2 and a half years with no contact. We ran into each other and was back together for 6 years. We then split again for 3 months and was back together (living separately) for another year and split again. Almost 2 years later and we continue to be "friends" (the kind that never see each other or talks unless we have a problem). I know he loves me and I love him....always will, but that doesn't mean we're willing to deal with the heart ache of trying it again.

Were these breakups mutual? Or who dumped who?

My ex always comes to me crying, I'm his soulmate, he grew up....(we are 38) and I'm ashamed to say I was always there for him, believing him, and then he is the one to never try with effort. Never includes me in his life won't sleep over move in forget it, he says down the road... Yet he is the one asking to try again!

So, I guess he is the dumper in a way, and also me cause I end up seeing no effort and start to complain and he realizes he doesn't want a real relationship, just verrry casual. Its been 12 yrs all together, the last 3 we have been divorced. It just ended again 3 wks ago, only thing now he is dating his neighbor!I gues I can say he never really wanted to try, just knew I was there for plan b, just in case

Concentrate on the present and the future not the past.

No contact isn't about them coming back. It is about you giving yourself a chance to get over the ending of the relationship and begin to move on.

If they come back it will most likely never work anyway so I wouldn't sit around waiting for it to happen.

Use no contact to mourn the ending of the relationship and begin the healing process. Nothing else.