I just read a question of a woman asking if its wrong to fantasize during sex with her husband of many years. All of the replies to the post were people telling her that its totally Fine! fine?
Do people really think that its okay to be making love to the person that you SAY you love while thinking of another person? Dont think that Ive never had sex before. Before I was a Christian i had alot of sex, and i plan on it after i marry my fiance, but never, i vow to never ever fantasize of another man. Its dishonest, and disrespectful, and selfish.
Nope. I think it's kind of inappropriate and if your paretner knew, I'm pretty sure ti would break their heart.
Yes, i think it's okay to allow your mind wander a little bit, but snave, you must keep in mind the difference between sex and love.
I guess you do... it's not about respect. You see, love is something deep and true and pure and something that you can jsut feel corsing through your veins. Sex is the physical part of love, but human beings have tainted it and turned it into just another thing that people do...
No, you're not alone and I think you've identified part of the reason why the divorce rate hovers around 50%. People aren't committed to their spouses or the institution of marriage. People want to fantasize, carry on affairs, look at porn, secretly e-mail their high school sweethearts from 25 years ago and everybody wants to pretend that it's all OK. Anyone who objects gets the guilt trip laid on them by being called insecure or a prude. Well, actions really do speak louder than words, so upon observing the state of things as they are today, no amount of rhetoric is going to convince me otherwise.
Do whatever makes you comfortable. Two people can define their relationship, according to them, but not good to tell others how to define theirs. Other peoples bedrooms are their business. Fantasy and role playing is okay in my house, plus a few more games, tricks and fun activities, and my marriage is solid, so if it works for you and him do it that way.
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