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    Jun 14, 2008, 02:13 AM
    Do I stay with him because I love him or move on because she does?
    Ive been going out with a boy for 6 months now, and I've recently found out his Ex still loves him. Is it time I forgot about her or is it time she forgot about him. To make things worst, his Ex is one of my good mates. Help me please! I don't know what to do. Thanks xx
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    Jun 14, 2008, 02:19 AM
    I think you should forget about her, even though she's your friend, she needs to move on. You and Him have been togethere a good 6months and you can't ruin it just because of a girl still loving him. You have him and he has you. Be proud that your boyfriend has other girls running after him ;) because they can't get close because you have him ;) not them!
    Gooood luck :) x
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    Jun 14, 2008, 06:29 AM
    You don't get to control other people in your life, least of all the ones you claim to love. Jealousy and insecurity are YOUR problem, not theirs.

    Don't get me wrong, you can risk mentioning it to your mates when you're having a problem, but you mention it as YOUR problem, not theirs, to solve.

    Too many times I see people trying to get someone else to change some behavior or stop some relationship so THEY will feel better about their relationship. Bad mojo. Once you go down that path there's not turning back, and you'll always have some new thing your mate(s) have to fix for you by changing their behaviors/themselves. It's a black hole.

    Deal with this on your own, and ALL of you benefit.
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    Jun 15, 2008, 12:33 PM
    Forget about her, since you are the one he spends time with.
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