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phatcat25 · Apr 13, 2007, 02:20 AM

I called this guy who I really want to be with and told him I needed to talk to him first before making a decision. I told him that I thought everybody deserves a second chance and I am sorry for breaking up with him. Then, I asked if he was done with me. He never calls me. I always call him asking if I can come over. He didn't answer. He said he would call me the next day to let me know whether he was going to give me another chance or not and he didn't. I told him if he was done with me then I am going to go to help someone get here to America. I don't know if I made a mistake or not. I just wanted to know did he want me or not. If not, then stop wasting my time. I could be with someone else. My question is with him not calling me back to give me a response, do you believe that is his way of telling me move on. I am done with you. Or should I wait to see if he calls still? What should I do?

Krs · Apr 13, 2007, 02:32 AM

Stop waiting
Move on...

Clough · Apr 13, 2007, 02:38 AM

This person has no power over you. Yet, you are giving him power because you keep saying to him about him being done with you. And, your asking about if this is his way of telling you to move on.

You have rights too, in a relationship. It does not sound like he is really interested in you. I have been interested in lots of people. Does not mean that they have been equally interested in me.

He doesn't keep his promises. Doesn't call. I would lose him. You deserve better treatment than that.

You will find someone else, if a relationship is that which you seek after. Lots of fish in the sea. And, people like yourself who will want to share with and be with you, and above all, be honest with you.

But, it is a choice that you have to make to seek out others with interests like you yourself have.

Jiser · Apr 13, 2007, 02:45 AM

You broke up with him. What do you expect?

Hes putting up his barriers to protect himself. How long ago was it you broke up? And have you maintained contact?

talaniman · Apr 13, 2007, 05:00 AM

I think you should keep your dignity and move on.

diya · Apr 13, 2007, 08:12 AM

I was in a similar situation and to make it worst.. got involved with a married man.. uh! And once he realized I was getting emotional about things... he started to distance himself by not calling or texting often and kept saying I was just a fling... may be I was but it would have been better had I been termed as a romantic partner... I kept insisting that to keep me he needed to make me feel wanted and special(I think we women r like that! ) but in vain. He would call whenever he wld want... and would seem busy when I would call him... funny isn't it. Finally I relented and asked him to move on... in this I had to be strong... for awhile it all felt awful and couldn't come to terms with it... but U KNOW WHAT... this site was of great help and I realized that I was losing myself over someone who gave me NO respect that I deserved as a person... So woman... there are better things in life than mulling over people who care a damn about you... don't stoop below your dignity... I 've become strong once again and so will you... if he calls you... be nice but firm in your decision... once gone... gone... let things go... learn from mistakes and life's an experience... cherish the moments and be happy...