I recently started dating a girl and we are beginning to get close. The relationship started when we met randomly through a group of friends. In the beginning, she approached me and started talking to me and poking me and stuff (messing around). I spoke to her and we got on well i think. She is a really interesting person and i found her very attractive from the moment i saw her, although i thought she was out of my league. The problem is that i am extremely shy around girls i like. I just avoid them and feel very uncomfortable with them. I know people will say they can relate to this, but it is really bad for me - i have had therapy previously for this, and am seeking professional help. I just cant look them in the eye. I dont understand why. I am ok sometimes with friends, although in a group i struggle. I dont think i am that bad looking and i sometimes get girls telling me i am cute, and i have had girls chase me before. They are always pushy, trying to get me to do stuff, and go places with them, but i just say no. When i then think about it, i get sad because i want to be there.

The girl in question is making a massive effort with me. She keeps asking me out, inviting me to go places which i really want to go to. I like spending time with her. She is beautiful, funny, crazy and i enjoy myself when i with her. But i just cant stop being so shy and i make excuses to not go. She knows how shy i am, when she kisses me, i just look down at the floor and feel awkward. She hugs me and she smells beautiful, i want to kiss her and tell her that i think she is beautiful but i just feel so uncomfortable. I wish i could tell her this. I know this must sound pathetic, but i just dont know what to do anymore. My previous relationships have broken down because of this, and i dont want it to keep happening.

Romefalls19

You sound young, so shyness is to be expected as it is new. The only way is to branch out a little bit. Gradually start going places with her, maybe once a week to start and ease into it. You have to wake up every morning, look in the mirror and say "I'm a great guy, I have a lot to offer" A goal I set for myself when I was shy, like you, was to meet one new person everyday. Just strike up a conversation about a school subject, new movie out, just anything to be put on the radar.

HelpSkippy

I am 23 and my girlfriend is 20, so we are not young. People always told me that i would grow out of it but it never happened. I try to meet new people and sometimes i am ok if they are cool and relaxed. Its worse when i like a girl. I just avoid them at all costs.

ardley216

just talk to her explain you;re like this , and she does seem to understrand you! i bet she finds it soo cute and loves it! you're lucky to have a girl like her just try... i know its hard.. and its not helful me saying it.. but yeah im similar but not so shy as you... i just deicded.. I AM NOT GOING TO LOSE HER!!! so i didn't.. ( for 18 months...lol.. but dont worry we're getting back on track now )