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Theres this girl at work. And i want to find out if she has a boyfriend before i ask her out basically i no she had one but I'am unsure whether she is still with him or not, and i need to find out because theres really nothing worse than getting rejected via her saying 'Oh i cant i have a boyfriend' she is definitely the perfect girl for me (and they dont come along often lol) its just how the hell do i ask her without it making it obvious and embarrassing myself and her at the same time...?
Just ask... I always hated when guys would foot around and stuff... If you want to know just ask. Walk up and be upfront and say "Do you mind me asking if you have a bf or could I maybe take you out sometime." It actually doesn't leave alot of room for rejection and most women don't like the "well ummm's" and the such. I look at it this way. If your so intimidated by me then your not worth it. Have the cahone's to ask and you might be pleseantly suprised. I hope this helps.
Since you said work, I will have to assume you are not in 8th grade still.
Passing her a note and asking her friend to ask her is not part of the relationship process any longer.
How closely do you work with this girl? I mean, you said you know she's the perfect girl for you, how much have you spoken to this girl to know that, and if you've spoken to her hasn't the subject come up? If you haven't spoken to her much, start saying hi and short one liner conversations like hey how was your weekend? See if she warms up to you or acts like a cold fish. If you have spoken to her and have the casual co-worker conversation than, you just jump in with both feet and ask her to dinner. How hard can it be to say "I don't know if you still have a boyfriend or not but I would really like to take you to dinner sometime, what do you say?" If you're not mature enough and man enough to put yourself out there than you'll never get what you want out of life, much less a relationship. Come one, just do it, you know you can!
nothing worse than being told she cannot because she has a bf?
ok. first of all, theres no guarantee shell say yes anyway, so if the fear of rejection is what is keeping you from asking, well get over it. its a gamble, bf or not.
and if she is seeing someone and the bf is keeping her from dating you, thats really not the worst turn down you could get. sure, it might suck, but its better than a lot of other things she could say.
look.... the absolute worst thing is to not ask out the "perfect girl" for you.
better to know reality than to worry about things that might not be true.
sometimes the timing is good. sometimes the timing is off.
if she does have a bf or she isnt interested, then you can move on and not wonder. and if she is interested, then you didnt waste another day wondering about maybe.
do it. do it. do it.
ive done things that i regret, but i regret more the things i never did when i had a chance.
The thing women like MOST in a man is confidence. Im sorry to say, but being shot down is part of the game istelf. Find something that gives you confidence, I take mine not in the fact that I know I can pick up any girl I talk to, but that I know I will find the right one for me somethime. Women have like a 6th sense when it comes to sniffing out fear in a guy, I dont know how but they do. Just never let her see you flustered and just play it cool. I am the kind of person that thinks you can get just about any girl you want as long as you know how to act. Right now, saying "you know she is the perfect girl for you" is setting yourself up for a fall flat on your face. Just be friendly, funny, and above all youself with her. Its more fun to make them cahse you anyways. If you play this like a scared little boy, you will get nowhere. aske her if she has a boyfirend straight up, if she does just say "thats too bad" and then have a laugh with her about it. Just be fun, Im telling you.....Ive been through this a few times and its not a big deal. The best way to deal with things like this is flirt, if she likes you, she will bite and you will know it! Be a bit coy with her at first, get to know her. If she has a serious boyfriend, she will tell you.
Hi, Gman,
One of the things we learn about life, through experience, is how to handle rejection!
It's important to remember that it's not what happens to us today, it's all in how we deal with it.
Ask her.
All she can say is "no". The longer you wait, the longer you give someone else the chance to ask her out. It's hard sometimes to force yourself into something, but it's the only way to get over being afraid. I do wish you the best of luck.
how do you know she use to have a boy frend?
if you meet him say: "What ever happend to your bf I haven't seen him sence (when ever the last time you saw him was)"
if she told you bout him say: "What ever happened to you bf (you don't talk about him much any more (or) you haven't metioned him sence...when ever she last metioned him)"
I you know she had one from somthing else tell me how you new and maybe I can think of somthing else for you
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