Why won't some men ever stop to ask for directions?

PrettyLady · #1 May 6, 2006, 07:25 PM

My boyfriend Sean and I have been together for 3 months, and we've had our ups and downs. We like to go out to places, which is a lot of fun. But when we get lost, he doesn't stop to ask for directions. He knows his way around NJ & NY, but sometimes you can easily get lost because it's a very big area. Last night, his close friend and business partner was having a party in Westfield, NJ, and he told Sean and I that we had to be there. So Sean called me on my cell phone at work and told me to be dressed by 8:00 PM. When I went home to get ready, I wanted to go on the Internet to look for directions on MapQuest. Therefore, I called Sean and told him I was going to get the directions from MapQuest, but he told me not to do it, that he knows how to get there. So I said, okay, then I took a shower and got dressed. I wore a cute and sassy black dress with black high heel sandals, I was in the mood to dance the night away. When he came to pick me up, he told me that I looked hot. As he was driving, I noticed that we passed the same place twice. I told him to call his friend to ask him for directions, but he said that he didn't need directions. After sitting in the car for an hour and a half, I screamed at him to stop the car and ask for directions. We are argued in the car for a few minutes, then he called his friend to direct us to the party. We finally got there, but I wasn't in the partying mood, I was so upset at him. On our way back from the party, I didn't say much to him. When we arrived at my house, he opened the car door for me, however, I didn't kiss him good night or anything. I just wanted get in my house and go to sleep. I told him to give me a couple of days to calm down, and we will talk about this.

I know I should have printed out the directions from MapQuest. If I ever go anywhere with him again, I'll make sure that I have the directions in my handbag. I don't understand why some guys never stop for directions. I've decided to go clubbing with my girlfriends tonight to keep my mind off things. At least my girlfriends and I ask for directions when we get lost. How do I convince my boyfriend that it's okay to ask for directions?

Diana

fredg · May 7, 2006, 03:32 AM

Hi,
It's a "man" thing!
Last vacation my wife and I took was many years ago. Went to Maine, CT, New England states. I passed the same "toys r us" store 4 times, before my wife said "let's stop, see how to get out of here"! I could see the Interstate highway; just couldn't get to it. We finally stopped, and asked.
Don't know why it's like that, but please don't be upset. It's just one of those "compromise" things in any relationship, loving him for "better or worse". This is one of the "worse"!
Many years ago, traveling in Alabama, my wife kept telling me that we are lost. After about 45 minutes traveling on an asphalt road, going 60 mph, straight road, the road had a 90 degree turn, no signs. I didn't turn. Kept going, with the brakes on, into a corn field. It was just luck the ground wasn't wet, and the car came out OK. Stopped at the nearest house, nice person told us the directions to get back to the main highway. Also ask me if I was the one he heard go into her corn field. She said, "happens all the time"!
Men driving!
Don't be mad; as you said, just take a map with you the next time.

Myth · May 7, 2006, 03:39 AM

My man wont stop to ask for directions either but always has me look them up before we go anywhere new. I guess i've fallen into the navigator position for him. I had to sneak the directions a few times in the beginning, but after that he depends on me to help us find our way. It saves him from having to "look like an idiot" and helped us learn to rely on each other. You might give it a try... humbly....lol... this is how we get around the problem without causing more.

fredg · May 7, 2006, 04:17 AM

Hi,
I've never felt "like an idiot" when I get lost, and don't ask for directions. We have done some very nice "unscheduled" sightseeing! My wife has never said "I am an idiot" for not asking directions.
There are too many other things in life to overcome, rather than simply seeing more of the countryside than one planned on.

nwsflash · May 7, 2006, 06:31 AM

I have a SatNav lol but can still get lost !!! I agree as posted above its just a " Man Thing " not to ask others for help when lost as it can be viewed as a sign of weakness....SatNav is brill but it has also has had alot of bad press over this way the last few months as they can add time and extra miles to your journey if you don't update the thing often or pay for the upgrades as they come out.

nymphetamine · May 7, 2006, 07:31 AM

well, Im not a guy and I dont like asking for directions because I have to walk up to strange people I dont know to ask them and Its kind of scary. My dad never really had to ask directions (except a couple times) cause he always knew where he was going.

eyad1969 · May 7, 2006, 10:41 PM

i think it is easy to answer that
cause he loves u too much and u r so prety he will never care if he fined the place that he is looking for or not cause he just care that u r with him .
i think when u r with him he lost his mined so u have to fined excuse for him.
u r so lucky cause u have boy friend love u like him.
good luck



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