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Ok so here is my dilemma,
I really like this girl that I've only hung out with a few times. We hang out as friends and have fun conversations. Every time I see her I smile and I have such feelings for her. She seams to want to keep it on a friend basis but I Want to Date her as a Girlfriend. She has told me a few times she doesn't want a relationship and thats kept me away from asking her to go out on an official date instead of just hanging out. She had a bad long term relationship with some third world ex-boyfriend and now she is against starting another relationship. I don't know what to do? God this is killing me. Please help me?!
Ok what i would suggest if you really like this girl and value her and respect her, leave what you have on a friend basis only. Respect that esp that she had a bad long term relationship.
Dont annoy her coz it may just push her further away.
What you can do, is keep going out with her a friend on a regularly basis and let her alone realise that you are different and she herself may then think to start something more.
Hi, Ak,
I was going to add a comment to the great previous answer, but wouldn't let me, "spread it around some more....". Good Answer.
I agree with previous answer. Keep it on a friend basis for now.
She has already said she doesn't want another relationship right now, so you will be much, much better off respecting her wishes. When you said that, I am sure she meant with anyone, including you.
She respects you very much, and cares what you think. You have a good friend. Time will tell about anything else.
Best of luck.
I would only add that if you read very many of the other relationship threads here, we are often advising someone just out of a bad relationship to stay out of them for a while. Hang out, make friends, and have fun. They really need that time.
So look at the bigger picture and help her, as her friend, do just that. If your timing requires more than that, be sensible and look in other fields.
Dont base your hopes up on this friendship maturing to something more, but you never know she may become to learn herself that she may want it to go further, but just dont push her into anything she claimed she doesnt want. Just be a good friend for her and she will truly treasure that, and gain respect for you.
What is an official date, I mean your already hanging out and enjoying each others company and getting to know one another,like the others have said relax and enjoy this time and let it go where it goes. Don't you realize how lucky you are already.
IM gonna have to against the girls here and agree with the guys lol
...if she is not ready for a relationship, then dont hang out with her at all. Are you interested in being her friend? or her boyfriend?
If you continue to hang out with her as "friends" you will be doomed. This isnt a fairytale or a movie... this is real life. Girls dont just suddenly realize that their bestfriend that they have known their whole like is ACTUALLY their one true love.
How long has it been thats shes been out of this relationship? You need to give her the space she needs but if it has really been a long time, that may just be an excuse.
YES!!! I hate that movie CRAP people seem to believe in....LIKE in the Movie 'HITCH'....about a dating Guru. The ending is SOOOOOO fake.....hope everyone saw this movie, because it isn't REAL!!!
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