I cant believe myself.

sober_depression27 · #1 Jan 8, 2008, 01:07 AM

well hello. i just have to say that i may be the most mindless person ever. What happened in my past relationship that ended a few days ago was the fact that i love this girl and she loves me.... but i have no morals.. i didnt learn anything and i lied to her throughout the relationship... bottom line the cat came out of the box and everything was revealed. I have to say we truly do love eachother but there was a time we broke up.. and i kissed a girl one time ... and i lied and said i didnt do anything.. and then i lied about speaking to her ... now the girl i LOVE wants nothing to do with me and i have no idea what to do......... your probably going to say it wasnt love but i know it was ..i just was so stupid to lie to her.. i was so scared to lose her and now its even worse.. she wants nothing to do with me she wont even talk to me ... what do i do? i learned my lesson ...i dont think i will ever lie to a girl on the face of the earth.. AGAIN.

simoneaugie · Jan 8, 2008, 01:45 AM

You have probably lost your girlfriend. But now you know what does not work. Take what you have learned into the future.

bluerose · Jan 8, 2008, 02:45 AM

I agree with simoneaugie. Even if it doesn't feel like it just now, you have learned a very valuable lesson that will make you a better person in the future. You could use what you have learned and try writing a very sincere 'Sorry Note'. Realise that she has been hurt and that it might take time for her to trust you again but it might also turn out to be worth the effort.

Mature people don't play games where love is involved.

RobGoesFish · Jan 8, 2008, 04:22 AM

If you really want her back, write her a letter explaining why you did what you did and why it wont happen again. Right now she has probably decided that you can't be trusted, in order to have any chance you must change her mind on this.

Romefalls19 · Jan 8, 2008, 04:26 AM

Best thing to do, leave it alone for a bit...Let her calm down because she is probably very angry at you. Which she should be, but after about a week or so of No Contact...Write her a letter...DO NOT type it..Hand write it and give it to her asking for forgiveness(not a chance) and she will see how sorry you are. But while she ponders if she should forgive or not..DON'T contact her..Space is an amazing thing..it makes feelings show up sometimes

mafiaangel180 · Jan 8, 2008, 04:56 AM

Wow, I feel for you...I really do. I mean, you kissed someone when you were broken up. And you knew that your girlfriend (though she would have no right) would ultimately be pissed if she knew. So you decided to lie to her because you knew the girl meant anything, which complicated things more. Either way, you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. I would calmly explain things to her, maybe write a letter, and let her go. Do the whole no contact thing. If she comes back around, then you can go from there.

TrueFaith · Jan 8, 2008, 06:28 AM

you messt up man we all do. at least your smart enough to know you did worng

so many people carry on making the same mistakes, make sure you dont mind friend. leave the girl a lone for a bit. see what happens you have made it clear that you are sorry the ball in now in her court

But you have morals you know you did wrong. and people with out morals dont know they have done anything wrong

good luck man



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