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Current partner confessing to strange past experiences

Asked Jul 18, 2007, 02:31 PM — 16 Answers
I have recently started dating this nice man and up till a few days ago I thought he was perfect. Then one afternoon he sat me down and told me how he enjoys masterbating in front of other men on webcam on the internet. He assures me he is not gay and that he is trying to stop the habit but I just can't help being a little... Shocked. What is everyone else's opinion on such practices? Thank you.

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Jul 18, 2007, 02:35 PM


If he wants to stop, he could, and there is a problem, if he really wants to stop, get rid of the web cam, get professional counseling.
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Jul 18, 2007, 02:58 PM
My opinion.....Honestly.... If my boyfriend told me that I would FREAK OUT! That's just weird! I mean he says he's not gay but what straight guy do you know likes to masterbate in front of other guys? I personally don't know one, and I know some crazy, sexual, weird guys. Plus I look at it this way, would you want him to do this if you two became serious? Some gay guy is at his house getting off to your bf/fiance/husband or whatever; I sure as Hell wouldn't! This type of behavior could be a sign of other things.... Porn addiction, Cyber sex etc. Etc....
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Jul 18, 2007, 03:00 PM
Honestly, NC! I won't even want to think about, that is way too crazy! NC any more!
Heh, see I am using the new word I just learned!
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Jul 18, 2007, 04:25 PM
Run away. Fastly. And as far as you can.

He sounds perverted to me and I wouldn't be giving him the pleasure of my time. Not one more minute. There are plenty more men out there. Most of them don't enjoy masturbating in front of other men either.
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Jul 18, 2007, 04:29 PM
Yea, he's not gay.
Smokers can quit anytime they want.
Alcoholics don't have a problem, they just like the taste of beer.
Heroin addicts aren't hooked, they just like the way it makes them feel.
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Jul 19, 2007, 02:39 PM
Thank you for your comments everyone. I would normally turn away myself as soon as someone said this but he is REALLY sweet and treats me well- I can't find any other fault in him. I guess I wanted to know whether people found this sort of behaviour normal to a man. I mean he has told me that he doesn't find men attractive and that it is more of a loneliness thing. All the more reason to give it up now he's with me. But I'm just worried he may start again, or he's in denial about his sexuality. I tried bringing it up again recently but he doesn't want to talk about it... So confusing...
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Jul 19, 2007, 04:13 PM
No he has to talk about it. This is very serious and if you guys are going to be in a loving relationship he has to be mature and strong enough to deal with this. Communication is key.
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Jul 19, 2007, 04:53 PM
Honestly you should be glad that he at least sat you down and told you about the problem,instead of you finding out at the last minute by accident.If you really are offended by it then move on get rid of him,but if its been a while and you guys are thinking bout getting serious then tell him how you feel,get rid of web cam and maybe see someone about it if he does it fairly often.
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Jul 19, 2007, 05:38 PM
Sounds pretty weird to me! I'd be very careful of this one!
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