Could use some advise

cess · #1 Mar 30, 2006, 01:29 PM

Ok i need advise on 2 different relationship propublems.

1> My x is asking me to sign a paper for him . I told him i would have to speak to my lawyer before signing any papers for him . He got mad and left me a txt message saying He was crushing the car (the paper he wanted me to sign was stating i was giving him the car back because it is in my name )and slitting his wrist . How am i to respond to this . txt him have fun ? or should i just go get the car and and have it towed to my storage unit ? If i had it towed i would have to not drive the car i am now for legal reason that my x would call the cops and report so i would be without a car. I don`t know what to do i just want my stuff back and i will sign the car over to him without a proublem but i don`t want to sign something with out legal advise am i wrong for this?

2> I met a guy at work we exchanged numbers now he is calling me none stop . He even called me baby . I am not dating this guy never went out with him . He is a nice guy always offering to cook me dinner and so forth but i don`t think i am ready for anouther relationship and i don`t know about a guy that is so agressive towards getting ahold of me.

I have no clue what to do about either proublem . so lets hear you alls advise.

Cess

jc105 · Mar 30, 2006, 02:07 PM

Sounds like the ex is way over dramatic. People that are going to kill themselves, rarely tell people if they actually want to die. That doesn't mean don't take him seriously, but don't let it change your judgement.

If the car is rightfully his, and he has stuff of yours, be adults and deal with it. If you just broke up, don't tell him you need to talk to your lawyer, tell him to give you guys some time apart. Just enough so the emotion fades enough so you can deal with splitting up the stuff. Me and my ex broke up real nice like so I don't really know too much about that stuff though.

The guy from work is desperate. Don't get into serial relationships. Have a fling, not with the guy from work though. He seems a bit clingy.

Oh and good luck and I am sorry that you are having so much trouble these days.

cess · Mar 30, 2006, 02:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jc105

Sounds like the ex is way over dramatic. People that are going to kill themselves, rarely tell people if they actually want to die. That doesn't mean don't take him seriously, but don't let it change your judgement.

If the car is rightfully his, and he has stuff of yours, be adults and deal with it. If you just broke up, don't tell him you need to talk to your lawyer, tell him to give you guys some time apart. Just enough so the emotion fades enough so you can deal with splitting up the stuff. Me and my ex broke up real nice like so I don't really know too much about that stuff though.

The guy from work is desperate. Don't get into serial relationships. Have a fling, not with the guy from work though. He seems a bit clingy.

Oh and good luck and I am sorry that you are having so much trouble these days.

Ok me and my x have been apart for over 2 months . You got to understand my stuff was worth more then the junk car. He said all my stuff got stolen but a few things like my car seats and something from my late husband. I just want him away from me to be honest. I want all my stuff and i would gladly had him a signed titel but he is refusing to do that . he will only give me back my car seats and 170 for my windshield . i am not signing anything for that . If you knew what all is missing you would understand.

with the co-worker i was thinking the same thing but i don`t want to be mean and be like you seem to clingy to me lol

cess · Mar 30, 2006, 03:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Fr_Chuck

First why is the car in your name, did you pay for it, did he pay for it but give it to you. Did he put it under your name to hide ownership ??

Need to know why it is in your name. If it is just your car, and you were not married to him, and you did not borrow the money from him to pay for it, then it is your car, he has no claim to it what so ever.

You can't drive the car for "legal reason" I will assume you don't have a drivers licence or insurance on the car perhaps. But you can't drive the car anyway if you don't have it, and for what ever reason I will assume you can't drive any car.

At this point, if there is no insurance on the car ( your responsiblity as owner) and he has a wreck, they can come after you as the owner of the car.

And what sort of paper did he want you to sign, The only legal way to turn a car over to someone is to sign the title over ( back of the title) notorised and a bill of sale. ( short of that papers may give him rights in court, but it does not change ownership. So the only paper that can change ownership would be the title you have.

Also if there is a lien (loan) against the car, the car can not have the owner changed without paying off the lien, or having the new person take over the lien.

As far as hurt hisself, don't let him bluff you into doing anything, that is called blackmail.

Also don't send back any smart *** text message, he could print it out and use it against you.

As for your stuff, what is it, you can take him to small claims court to make him pay for or give your stuff back.

If the car should be his, fine, sign the title over to him, but if there is a lien and that loan is in your name, you can't sign it over till he takes over the loan. or gets a new loan and pays off your loan.

If you let him have the car and you owe money, he won't pay the loan, and you wil have to pay and won't have the car either.

As for the other guy, tell him that you want to be "friends" that word should kill his advances. Or tell him honestly you are not ready yet and his stalking is killing any chance he may ever have latter.

1)First why is the car in your name Because i have a license and insurance and he had niether while we was dating .

2)You can't drive the car for "legal reason" I will assume you don't have a drivers licence or insurance on the car perhaps don`t assume because that is incorrect. I rarther not expand on this subject.

3)At this point the car is known as stole and that he move the car out of county.The car is insured and i have the license plates for it.

4) I am not sure he siad i could get my car seats on sunday but i would have to sign a paper. assuming something along the lines when he returns the seats and the other items he has told me he has and the 170 for the winshield him and his friend broke that i will give him the title .

5) there is no lien on the car niether of us purchased this vechel it was a gift from his mother .

s_cianci · Mar 30, 2006, 04:57 PM

First of all, who is the legal owner of the car? That is to say in whose name is the title or lien? If it is your ex's then there should be no reason for you to have to sign anything ; he just takes his car and that's that. If it's in your name, however, then I wouldn't sign anything regardless of what a lawyer has to say. In any case, if you feel you ought to talk to a lawyer before signing anything then by all means do so. Let your lawyer see the document you're being asked to sign and get his/her opinion. Now about this guy who's pursuing you, just tell him what you've told us here, that he's a nice guy and everything but you don't think you're ready for another relationship. IF he's the least bit reasonable he'll get the message.

cess · Mar 30, 2006, 06:28 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by s_cianci

First of all, who is the legal owner of the car? That is to say in whose name is the title or lien? If it is your ex's then there should be no reason for you to have to sign anything ; he just takes his car and that's that. If it's in your name, however, then I wouldn't sign anything regardless of what a lawyer has to say. In any case, if you feel you ought to talk to a lawyer before signing anything then by all means do so. Let your lawyer see the document you're being asked to sign and get his/her opinion. Now about this guy who's pursuing you, just tell him what you've told us here, that he's a nice guy and everything but you don't think you're ready for another relationship. IF he's the least bit reasonable he'll get the message.

The car is in my name

I am telling him friday that i am not looking for a relationship right now . But i wouldn`t mind keeping him as a friend.

CaptainForest · Mar 30, 2006, 06:59 PM

I read all the posts and I still do not follow about this car situation.

It is in your name, why? Did he pay for it???

You say he didn’t have insurance or a license at the time of purchase, so why would he want to get a car????

Way more details are needed or clarification of details as it’s very confusing.

As for your second problem,. tell him u don’t want to date. and then block his number if he continues to harass you.

cess · Mar 30, 2006, 07:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CaptainForest

I read all the posts and I still do not follow about this car situation.

It is in your name, why? Did he pay for it???

You say he didn’t have insurance or a license at the time of purchase, so why would he want to get a car????

Way more details are needed or clarification of details as it’s very confusing.

As for your second problem,. tell him u don’t want to date. and then block his number if he continues to harass you.

The car is in my name . we put it in my name because my car has a salvaged title and we needed a car to drive his mom gave the car so no one owes anything for it.I have tags and insurance on the car. The tags for that car our on my car now so that is what i didn`t want to reveal .

fredg · Mar 31, 2006, 03:43 AM

HI,
First, don't sign anything.
Next, if you have tags from another car on your car, you could get into very, very serious trouble with the State Police, not to mention Court's.
About all the phone calls.
Have you called your local Police Department, and reported him?
I do wish you the best, and good luck.



At Ask Me Help Desk you can ask questions in any topic and have them answered for free by our experts. To ask questions or participate in answering them you must register for a free account. By registering you will be able to: Get free answers from experts in any of our 300+ topics. Accept money for answers that you provide. Communicate privately with other members (PM). See fewer ads. Sign Up!