Continue dating him?

Wondergirl · Nov 30, 2008, 11:09 AM

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Originally Posted by mecakor

I want to have a serious relationship with him

WHY?

Everything you said about him was negative. Most of all, he's a liar. By the time I finished reading your post, I didn't like the man at all. Why do you want to have a relationship with him? Have you met him in real life? You mentioned "should I continue dating him?" Do you think online chat is dating?

roxypox · Nov 30, 2008, 01:14 PM

When you come across a man like that you should just stare clear of him! If I was in your situation, the first thought that would hit me and it hit me as I read your post is: How many other girls is he 'dating'?

seriously think about it:

1. He lies about his age.
2. He is registered at different datingsites
3. He lists different ages on different sites.

This smells like a bad deal to me mecakor....

If you have negative thoughts that are in connection to him then maybe you should listen to them.

If he seems self centerd, then he proably is. And his focus on his looks showes you that he is very egotistical or perhaps that he is hiding a low self esteem...

And seriously, do you really want to be with a person who is WAY to concerned about peoples shortcomings?

Have you ever met him? It's one thing to chat with someone, but I wouldn't consider it dating. When you chat you can hide your own shortcomings and you can hide every side of yourself that you don't want other people to see. For Example: ON THIS SITE, if I wanted to portray myself as a self serving a$$ who only care about myself and who holds no regards to other people and their feelings I could do that, but I chose to be honest about my problems and to have a caring attitude towards the other people here... Still you can't see me at my most neurotic, or what I look like when I have a panic attack or that I'm really grumpy in the morning. (hehe

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My best advice to you is: stop chating with him!

Were there is one lie, there is probably another.... Especially if your chatting and he feels the need to lie about his age.

liz28 · Nov 30, 2008, 01:28 PM

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He seems love himself more than me.
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Why do you feel he should love you and do you love him because I think if you do then you have your love misplace.

I think you should reread your post because all the answers to your question is within your post.

To be honest, it doesn't even seem like then guy want anything serious so you should find someone that want the same thing as you.

Also, watch out for guys on the internet. By the way, did you met him in person or just over the internet?

roxypox · Nov 30, 2008, 02:27 PM

Liz: really agree with you! Some people on the internet are for real, but if he lies about his age and has all the other negative aspects as described above.... Even the lying is enough really.

Why do you want a serious relationship with him? He doesn't seem like the catch of the year! Or the best catch in any situation to be frank!

Wondegirl: hehe :P you should see me the mornings me and my sister get up at the same time.... Full scale war :P haha >(my sister and I share an apartment, and work together)

mecakor · Nov 30, 2008, 02:34 PM

Thanks for all the answers.
Yes, I met him in person but few times, and he is fun to be with. Those negative thoughts came out suddenly sometimes when I was with him, listening and talking to him. I thought maybe we still need time to get to know each other but the moment my instinct told me maybe that how he is. I am attracted for his talents and some fun sides of him,but I also had a feeling that he might have many online chattings. He said he likes having fun with people,just fun. He seems have some "not good" experience which can't make him treat people seriously. I am far far from "analyzing people", I just tell what I feel and hope to get some helps.I never had online dating except this man. I have some feelings for him but I don't know if there would be good relationship with him. Thanks.

roxypox · Nov 30, 2008, 03:38 PM

It doesn't really sound like he is looking for a relationship, which is a bad starting point to begin with.

If I'm understanding you correctly: he has had some bad experiences that make him hesitant to enter a relationship?

I'm sort of of the belief that if there are too many negative thoughts , then it can't really work out... And if you are unsure and he doesn't want to be in a relationship then I think its a no go.

But its good that you've met him in person.

southerngalps · Nov 30, 2008, 03:45 PM

There is a reason you are hesitating. You know that this is not what you really want.

Trust your instinct. Find a fine gentleman

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