In a email my BF wrote to a woman (someone he used to work with and they were friends)...he wrote "Lin and I are doing fine. We haven't decided on anything yet. I think that we both have feet that are cold wet and cold. I had her car toned up, new tires, and a remote start. That is as close to being a husband as I care to get.

save me a hug,"

How would you interpret this? I get mixed feelings about it. Is it a hint for her? The man was crying and begging me to marry him 2 months ago (he had a ring)....at that time I was trying to break it off with him.....then I read this comment and wonder...any help?

ScottGem

I have to ask how you came to be reading his e-mails? That would have a bearing on my answer.

tinsign

Well to be honest with you i too am sitting here scratching head thinking
Perhaps he was replying as to how you were both doing from a previous mail, and that he decided he doesn't want the married life with you after all.
Thats my interpetation of what he is implying

lyn1106

He has me go on his name all the time to look up stuff for him.

lyn1106

I agree with you also tinsign....but I also wonder if he was putting feelers out there for her to respond to....

kanicky73

The thing that sucks about emails, is that you dont really get the actual "tone" that someone is trying to convey. I would ask him about it. If the two of you are talking about marriage, then the first thing you have to have is communication. If you cant openly ask him about this, then you need to ask yourself if either of you are at the point of taking the next step into marriage.

ScottGem

Ok, so he allows you free access to his e-mails. So he knows there is a probablity that you will read that mail. So maybe he's trying to get you a little bit jealous. The fact that he knows you can see what he's written makes me believe it was planted.

robertsqueen

Or, maybe he is trying to get to realize that you aren't the only fish in the sea, and that he is trying to give you an ultimatium, but if aren't ready for marriage don't marry him.

talaniman

Speculation means nothing. Calmly ask him about it since he gives you free access

valinors_sorrow

I agree with Tal -- asking him beats guessing any day of the week.
Besides maybe its because he has nothing to hide. Some people are like that. LOL

But I have to wonder what's with this part of it..........This doesn't seem particularly legit to me but perhaps that's my reaction to it.
It hits me as pretty unnecessary and therefore a bit strange, maybe even a bit gamey or manipulative that he requires this.