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    chaliandra Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
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    Jul 16, 2011, 01:44 PM
    Close friend suddenly ignores me.
    I'm in a RN program at a community college. In my first semester, I met this amazing girl. She was a bit older than me, but we hit it off real well. We ate lunch together a lot, we went on group dates, we spoke to each other a lot on the phone and Facebook. And we been in the same classes since as well. Even though we are close, our relationship never grew to an 'intamate' level. But I'm not one that likes to push, I'm a patient man, and had been going at her pace.

    We're closing our 3rd semester now, and she's not doing so well with the grades. As a result, she had been getting very depressed about it. On my end, I feel helpless, since I can't do anything but listen to her problems, and be there as a supportive friend. But as we are getting closer to finals, she had just been getting more and more distant.

    It has gotten to the point that she is just plain ignoring me now. She is a type of girl that is constantly on Facebook, and is always checking her phone. She is not the type to misplace her phone or miss calls. But when I call her, she ignores the call, the phone just rings and goes to the message machine. She ignores my texts, and doesn't reply to Facebook messages, (but she is still posting on her wall, go figure). Even in class, she ignores me and says very little. Our last class was an exam day, and she didn't stick around to talk to anyone (She usually does). She just got up and left after she finished the exam. I didn't even get a chance to say hello to her. As of this post, this had been going on for 5 days.

    I don't call her very often. (maybe once or twice a week). But now I'm very worried about her now. I just want to know why is she suddenly ignoring me, when we knew each other for a long time now. What do you think I should do?
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    Jul 16, 2011, 02:17 PM

    Leave her alone, and take the hint she has other priorities in her life, and she doesn't want to reach out to you.

    Forget her. She is doing her thing and that doesn't include you.
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    Jul 16, 2011, 10:54 PM
    Sounds like you are obsessed with her.

    She's not interested in being romantic or what you think was supposed happen. After 3 semesters. Geez, that's a long time.

    Stop the madness. Stop pushing this. Before it gets weirder. Focus on your studies.

    Leave her alone.

    You sound like a guy that wants to be a friend, but with a personal agenda. Nice one. See?

    If you think she hasn't shown you by now, then... Get a grip.

    Figure out who you are & what you want.

    Not every girl you like, likes you. Maybe start, not looking.

    Be cool. Not desperate.

    Say hi, if you run into her, other than that, no.

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    Jul 16, 2011, 11:33 PM

    Been there, done that, and got the RN license!

    Nursing school is tough! Typically around the third semester it seemed like the dynamics of the class shifted, groups changed, people changed as the material got harder.

    It appears that you are no longer a priority in her life. Take it as hint to back off and change your circle of friends as well.

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