ok, well im a 19 yr old male who is maddly in love...now my problem is with my "ex girlfriend" she is 18 and we have been seeing each other for two years.....in the beiginining of the relationship it was great and no problems...but then a few mths in i began cheatin on her with numerous girl exactly 5 diff. girls....she found out cuz i got caught and she broke up wit me afta each time but she always took me back cuz i sai di would change...well finally afta the 5th time i did CHANGE...its been 9 mths and i ahvent even attempted talkin to another girl...me and her have been on and off and right now were off takig space is what she wants to call it...she cant trust me an di understand that but i know im a gret catch and she knows i do love her and i know a part of her believe i have changed....but now she thinks she needs this space ..which i dont understand because its been 9mths i havent cheated on her she finnally gets what she wants and now she says we need some space...but we still talk and see each other she just doeant want the relatinship thing...and theother night me and her hung out and i found out she had talked and chilled with another guy which they didnt do anythin but hang out at a club...and she swears she wants nothin to do with him and she wants to be with me but still wants some space...im getin hurt now because instead of blowin up and gettin mad i understand i deserved her talkin to anothe guy cuz i wat i had done in the past an di explained taht to her and she was surprised for me to not go crazy over her talkin to another guy instead i took it for what it was and told her i can TRUST her and i do want to be wiht her and want to make her happy....i just want to know if i am just waistin my time and should just move on because she will never trust me again or shoul di wait around and give her space and try to make things work....hoppeelsssy in LOVE please help me out

NJCUTIE77

Hi! Well, firstly, I have to really compliment your girlfriend in taking you back all those times... I could never do that....For the record, cheating is a very terrible thing... I think the time off will be good for you and the relationship and may also bring your girlfriend to trust you again. If i were you, I would send little signs to her to make her feel special and keep in mind that you have "changed". Have you thought about why you cheated on her??? Do not constantly go after her, but send her flowers or a romantic email.. something to just keep in her head to make her think about you and trust you. Sometimes a relationship counselor can help if they two of you want to make it and really love each other. She ofcourse has to aggree with this, but I have seen it done before, and the relationships do work out. You seem like you really love this girl and if she trully sees that you have changed and she could rebuild her trust which will take a lot of you to show her, then I see every chance of you fixing this relationship. I have a post on here as well!

Skell

Your a great catch??????

Ha ha

You have cheated on your gf 5 times. Great catch!

C'mon man, this girl will never be bale to trust you and nor should she.

And without trust you have nothing.

Time for you to be single for a while and work out why you feel the need to exploit the trust placed in you by another person.

You have some serious issues that need sorting before you are in any form of relationship!

So yes, you are wasting your time and yes, you should move on!

that is my answer to your question.

good luck!

How does he seem like he really loves this girl????

He has cheated on her 5 times at least.

Is that love??

Sorry, but i see no chance of fixing this relationship!

LUNAGODDESS

Are you serious ...Dude! How many times have you cheated on this young woman 5 times (come on now it was more than 5 times you must be trying to play a good guy here)?

Another question: hopelessly in love with whom the one that got away? What will you do if you catch her again...Cheat again?

You are 19 years old and the whole world of girls is out there for you to treat like a buffet table.

Go and enjoy yourself and next time ...tell the next girl that you do not want to be tried down. Tell the next girl that if she sees you in the mall do not get upset with the fact that you are with another girl...for you are single and young and free. (That is what this guy said to me and I said this guy is full of himself...we been married for over 25+ years.)

Oh, before I forget go to the doctor and have yourself checked for STD and AIDS...this is no joke. For every woman you had sex with ...you are sleeping with whatever she had slept with. Busy boys should know this!

Leave the young lady alone and you move on.

BIM

I have to agree with the above-- you're a great catch......OMFG!!! A great catch would screw around 5 times one the "one" he's truly in love with.


'Nough said.

wwsv2087

ok well there were reasons why i had cheated (just so yall know we wernet together at these times i just considered it cheating because were still talkin) on the girl she didnt appreciate me ....firstly im an 19 but im on the verge of becoming partner in a sale and marketing firm .....and i amke over 150,000 a year and when i was really in need of her support she was only being a to me and that wass before she knew about me cheatin the funny thing was that i cheated on her and she realized what she had and began to treat me better but she always went back to being a to me so i went back to cheating....but i realzied afta the 5th time i was in love with this girl cuz i could never get her out my mind, also i always choe to be with her instead of these other girls that were equaly as beautiful they jstu didnt have my heart like she did and i would do whatever could be done to make her happy so i chose to grow up and focus all my energy on her and try to start a trustin relationship again...but it seems like i still dont deserve the way she treats me i put up with it for the 9mths and feel like i paid my dues and its time for her to start treatin me good again and showin me she cares cuz i wont hurt her again...and i know once a cheater always a cheater...but u know what i feel like me adn her have something that could last a lifetime and am willing to do what it takes to get through this rough stage....right now she is all the willing to being with me but just wants some space since we always hung out with each other all the time ...which i dont mind at all i think it can only bring us closer....so i dk i know it looks like i ruined it all but me and her both did things to get to this point and i just want me and her to work out and be happy i really am a great catch too i wassnt 9 mths ago but like i said have grown alot and on the path to becomin very successful and am just looking for someone to to support me to help me get to were i want to be....and no im not selffish she also has large dreams and i plan on doin everything in my power to support her and get her to were she wants to be so we can both fullfill our dreams and be happy....plus i forgot to mention i have gotten her pregnant the first itme she miscarried the second we chose for an abortion.....and i feel as if this wass to happen again i would choose to go forth and have a baby with her because maybe that might be wat it takes for u to trust i am ready for a truly commited relationship....pleasseeee help me with this ..ia m very bad at explaining things in writing so im sry

BIM

LMFAO--

1st off: I can hardly understand your posts, you need to learn grammar better and you need to use spell check. If you are becoming a partner in a business and you making 150,000 per year (ya right) then these two things are essential.

2nd: You have gotten you pregnant twice and the second time you told her to get an abortion--holy $hit you are a catch!!!

Move on--let her find someone else.

Geoffersonairplane

Time for a reality check!!

You deserve to be on your own for a while.


You almost sound like you regret she found out.

What makes you think you are a good catch? did the fact that you cheated on her 5 times slip your mind???

Without sounding too harsh because I know you are recognising what you did is wrong. Maybe you could be a good catch once you realise that doing this to a woman is very wrong and put more value into what it really means to be in a serious relationship with someone.

But lets be realistic here, you did this not once, not twice, not even three of four times, but 5 times...

I feel sorry for her, sorry for the fact that she let it happen to her, but also sorry for the fact that she was naive enough to believe you when you said you would change without taking any real time out to work on making those changes.

I don't blame her!!

She has every right to be with who she wants to be with. You sound as if you think she will cheat on you..But get this....

You are 'off' now as you say which to me sounds like a break, separation, whatever you want to call it.. So what she does now is her business.. and if she did do anything, she would not be cheating!!

Ahhh, well thats good, I read on and at least you understand that you cannot get angry that she TALKS to someone else!! and good that you took it for what it was.

I think you have some issues and you need to understand that you cannot do this to someone and expect instant forgiveness each and every time. Now that she tells you she wants space, you say you have changed..

Have you really?? How much longer when the dust has settled before you find the urge to do it again??

O.K, if you have really changed, then fair enough, I ask, what made you change, just the fact that she said she wanted space?

Guilt?

What motivated you to change? and what did you do to make these changes? or did they just materialize out of thin air?

Sorry if I sound harsh, I am just giving you my honest opinion..There is always a chance for people to change if they really want to but it takes time and effort and real self-reflection.

I think perhaps it would be a good idea for you to take so real long time out from any relationship to sort these issues out.

NeedKarma

Uh no I don't think so. Owners of companies usually can type, spell and use proper grammar. Perhaps the problem is that you live in a wonderful fantasy world.

valinors_sorrow

I don't believe the facts given, I don't see a sincere question, I believe its only purpose is a game and posting to it only makes it continue. If what I'm suggesting seems accurate to you, the only way to solve it is to refrain from further posting at all. Its sad what anonymity does to some people.