Hi guys and gals.

I see a lot of threads here on AMHD about cheating and the pain and trouble that it causes. I am completely against cheating and believe that a person should be 100% faithful at all times, otherwise get shown the front door and change the locks (so to speak).

This has only happened to me once when I was much younger (17) and it was only a short relationship of a few months. One thing I am 99% sure of about my recent ex was that she never cheated on me and I was with her for 3 years. I think she was scared though that she may cheat because of her desire to explore the single life and go wild for a while..LOL

Anyway, I have been thinking back to that woman many years ago who cheated on me, and even though it was a short term relationship, it still hurt me albeit she was not exactly morally right in the head, in fact she turned out to be a serial cheater..LOL

Anyway...My question is do people think that in today's society, Cheating either physically or emotionally is commonplace?

Basically, would others here conclude that there is a high percentage of cheaters out there? Also, is there a relationship between age and cheating and is it something which you believe that becomes less commonplace with age or something that follows people throughout life?

Just a general question really while I have my thinking cap on!!

NeedKarma

I hope it isn't considered the norm. I think it may be a case of this being a place where only the problems get aired out, not the announcements of healthy relationships. I haven't seen a thread yet that begins with "Girlfriend loyal and loving to me - what should I do?"

kay13

Hi Geoff, I think cheating is either in a person's nature or it isn't. I don't think it's to do with age.

Yes, I do think it's commonplace and it's not right. How sad is the world today?

Geoffersonairplane

I could start a thread like that but it would be pointless, because I would have nothing to add in the message except, 'in my dreams'.....

LOL..

NeedKarma

That's basically my point. Only the unhappy people are posting their relationship problems. The happy ones have no need to be here. You cannot extrapolate what you see here to the general population.

Jiser

I personally think cheating is more common place in the younger generation,s that is not to say older persons don't have desires.

Whilst younger alot of people are 'exploring' themselves and this I think is the reason why, alot of peeps cheat and of course perhaps they are not entirely happy with their indivdual circumstances.

Synnen

I think cheating is no more or less common than it ever was in our society. I think that it is like child abuse, rape, and alcoholism--something that existed, but no one would talk about.

That being said...I think that it is people who are taken for granted that cheat once.

I think it is people with low self-esteem, people who need to be wanted, that are chronic cheaters.

Wildcat21

Qyite frankly I feel it's a epidemic....a lot of it is based on people getting married too young.

That's why we ALWAYS say here GO SLOW. LEARN ABOUT THIS PERSON. YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW SOMEONE UNTIL ABOUT 1 YEAR.

talaniman

Cheating is done by selfish and dishonest people, who can justify their actions with so much BS that the can't see what they are doing is wrong, and don't care who gets hurt as long as they get what they want, not what they deserve. This behaviour is normal for selfish dishonest, uncaring people.

Squiffy

I think cheating is more commonplace because nowadays it is so much easier to do. My ex husband cheated on me many times, most of the women he cheated on me with were women he found on dating websites.

Saying that, it may just be that cheaters seem more common because they are less tolerated. From what I understand of history, it was commonplace for men to have their mistress, and the little wives had to accept it, whereas nowadays they dont have to, they expect their partners to be faithful.