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    #21

    Jul 14, 2010, 04:14 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by definitelymaybe View Post
    where it says k u, it should say f*** u


    but thank you. i appreciate it. why would he test me though? he made it pretty clear he wants nothing to do with me and avoids me like i am the black plague...
    Please don't let this guy into your life again.
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    #22

    Jul 14, 2010, 04:38 PM

    Don't fall for this persons lies, he wants a back up babe, someone there for when he has run out of all the others he's fed a ton of crap too, you've been mushroomed, sorry but that's how I would put it,
    ( fed on bull sh*t and kept in the dark)

    Don't have anything more to do with him he's a loser and a user, he will get his one day. You'll see.
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    #23

    Jul 14, 2010, 11:15 PM

    No significance. He is being a jerk and not caring about you and your feelings. He is not taking responsibility. You have the right to be mad that he allowed something interfere with your life that is not working out. But he is not taking responsibility... he is not able to see his part in this, and he does not care if he makes you mad or interferes in your life. Tell him you do not want to hear from him again! Or better yet, when you see him name on your phone, just erase without looking!
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    #24

    Jul 17, 2010, 10:11 AM

    That's what cheaters do, circle back around to see if you will let them back in and put up with more of their cheating, lying selfish ways. Don't do it, and start ignoring any contact he tries to make with you.
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    #25

    Jul 25, 2010, 09:35 AM
    Why did he say this...
    If I posted this twice, sorry, the first one isn't showing up? I went to the concert and had been drinking a bit. I hooked up with a couple people, just made out, nothing more. My ex who cheated on me and is still with the girl he cheated on me with heard about this I guess and texted me calling me a sl*t because I hooked up with them. It really made me feel like crap and really mad about myself and I keep letting it get to me. I don't know why he would say this and I'm really bummed about it. Why would he call me that? Does he understand that I'm a person? Why should he care what I'm doing with my life now and why would he care? I just feel like such crap and I want to tell him off but I don't know what I would say. I told him if he was going to talk to me just to call me that, then not to talk to me at all.. im just really confused. Please help :/
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    #26

    Jul 25, 2010, 10:41 AM

    Sounds like your ex has some unresolved issues,or he was more then a little miffed that you decided not to live under a rock for the rest of your life hugging a picture of him!

    You went out,you had a good time,none of his business.

    Block him from your phone.

    I'm sure his current girlfriend wondered why her boyfriend was so upset over something that was none of his business.

    Your not a slut,your over him.

    Good for you,tough for him.
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    Jul 25, 2010, 11:39 AM

    Take no notice of what your ex b/f calls you, I accept it can be hurtful to be called names by another, however you know its untrue and that's all that matters, he is just trying to get a reaction out of you for some reasons possibly to boost his own ego.

    Don't let him get what he wants, ignore him, he will soon get fed up once he realises you're not going to take any notice of what he says. Hes acting childish, that doesn't mean you need to go down to his level of maturity...
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    #28

    Jul 25, 2010, 12:11 PM

    I agree with redhed.. He's just mad and/or jealous that you're not pining your life away over him.

    Don't let him have power over you and allow him to see that what he did really did upset you. I would be upset too.. but try your hardest to act as if it didn't phase you one bit.

    You're single now. You can do whatever you want with whoever you want. It is none of his business.

    Hes upset becaue he heard that you moved on.

    Just keep moving forward! Don't look back.
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    #29

    Jul 26, 2010, 11:42 AM

    Thank you everyone :) your advice really helps a lot.. but I just recently found out he hooked up with someone too the day he said that to me. He is just hypocritical and jealous and already cheated on his new girlfriend... so I don't need him in my life. He just causes a lot of drama.
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    #30

    Aug 25, 2010, 07:08 AM
    Best friend going for ex boyfriend..
    So my exboyfriend cheated on me then dumped me before I found out. We were left on really bad terms and barely spoke all summer.. he ended up staying together with the girl he cheated with until she went off with some other guy. My best friend went away to summer camp and apparently while she was there, my ex told her he had intense feelings for her. They have been hanging out the past week and she has been lying and very sneaky about it. He is completely obsessed with her and just wants to get some from her and she claims she "knows waht she's doing" me and her are having a rough patch and I want to fix it but if she's going to associate with the one kid who's hurt me over and over then I don't know if I even want to fix things with her. I'm a wreck and don't know what to do. I went off on her about it and my ex told me to get out of his life and not to mess things up with him and MY best friend. I don't know what to do or what to say. I'm leaving for college in two days so I'll be away from everyone, but for the short term I need advice on what to say to her. For some reason she thinks it's okay to talk to him and hang out with and sneak him into her house. I don't know what I should do at all.. please help me :/
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    #31

    Aug 25, 2010, 07:46 AM

    I think you should do nothing. His is your ex, so his life is no longer your concern. Probably you should cut off your "friend" too because now she is associated with him and any news about their happy life will hurt you.
    You're leaving soon, so soon enough all of this will be behind you. Good luck in your studies.
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    #32

    Aug 25, 2010, 09:00 AM

    Your post seem to disappear because they are about the same subject, so they are merged into one.

    She is not your best friend, she is a slut like your ex is, so let them have one another and take this as a lesson to make better choices in friends, boyfriends, and your own actions.

    Take heed of what I have said, as childhood is over, and adulthood is right around the corner, and there is no place for these childish actions, and concerns any more. Sorry to be harsh, bu your growing pains are easier to accept when you think before you act, and learn your lessons, and deal with them in a mature and positive way.

    This is your first test of accepting people for what they are, NOT what you want them to be, and being a lot more thoughtful, and responsible for your own actions, and make decisions based on FACTS, and not just feelings. Leave them both behind you, and rise beyond them, as you make plans for your OWN future.
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    #33

    Aug 25, 2010, 09:16 AM

    A good lesson on the way way things can sometimes be in "adulthood". The way you handle it will go a long law towards proving you are more mature then they are.
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    #34

    Sep 22, 2010, 03:59 AM
    What do I do next?
    I have just recently started talking to this boy I met at college and since my most recent, FAILED relationship I'm not sure what to do next. I'm pretty interested in him and we have become closer friends over the past two weeks. We talk a lot and hang out from time to time, but it's nothing special, just doing homework and sometimes we get meals together. I'm not sure how to take it to the next level, or if he is even interested in doing so. We also hung out and danced at a party for a while, but we haven't kissed or anything. I don't want to rush things, but I'm really at a loss of what to do or how to be natural because its been about a year and half since I was single and looking. I know this is a very petty problem, but I was wondering if anyone can give me some advice because I feel so lost. It would really be appreciated :) :)
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    #35

    Sep 22, 2010, 05:37 AM

    I wouldn't do anything more than what you're doing right now. Why not just stay friends and let the feelings develop slowly and naturally?

    If he has a romantic interest in you he will eventually make a move. Otherwise, why not just enjoy the great friendship you seem to have going on?
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    #36

    Sep 22, 2010, 06:38 AM

    Why can't you just relax, and enjoy the friendship?

    Why does it have to go to the next level?

    Why can't you just be cool, and enjoy getting to now a person to see if they are what they seem, and maybe worth more?

    What's your hurry? Why can't you just enjoy being single and NOT looking for romance?

    Why can't you just have fun without a title?

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