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Ok lets go thru the run down of what happened. I was at my friends house for a small party and during the night I became rather drunk and player some strip poker (which I won but thats not important really) after which a girl at the party and myself started flirting and stuff. Now the bad part of this is that I have a girlfriend (relationship is a few weeks long). Now when I'm drunk I like to wrestle and I started wrestling with this girl who was half naked and everything would have been alright up to this point (cuz I had told my girlfriend that i was going to a party and would being playing strip poker and some stuff might happen) However then things went overboard and a part of me started to tell me that I could do what I wanted with this girl (yea by a part of me basically look at it as a double personality seeing how thats it's equivalent) So anyways I ended up having sex with this girl who I found out likes me (kinda duh, why would she have sex with me if she didn't) and now I'm confused on what to do. Oh and its only been about 3 days since I cheated and me and my girlfriend will be seeing each other tomorrow.
I see my options as this:
1) I can come out and tell my girlfriend and ruin her life (No understatement like DEMOLISH her life)
2) I can completely Lie to her and get the people who know to be quiet (they are all good friends)
3) I can tell part of the truth that suggests that something happened without saying it happened and as such not lie but not tell her I cheated thus not destroying her life
Then again I may be missing something other then the fact I'm an idiot who cheated on someone who is very serious about him. Any suggestions?
I understand that s___ happens when you're drunk, but the fact is that you cheated on your gf.
I think your concern isn't so much about "demolishing" her life, but covering your own @$$ for acting like an "idiot," which is an understatement in my opinion. I can't believe that you even considered dragging your "good friends" into your own web of lies. If you really cared about her (and it seems like you don't), you would grow some balls, stop being so selfish, and tell her the truth. You should leave it up to her if she still wants to stay with you or not.
Yes i realize im selfish, and yes im more then an idiot and I wouldn't drag my friends into lies just ask them not to tell her. And by not getting them to tell her I would be doing on of two things, completely lying or asking them not to tell her so I can do and something along the lines of "take it like a man" And yea currently I think I would choose to only tell part of the story so life can move along as it is and my relationship with my girlfriend can continue the way it should or tell her what happened and see what happens next.
omission is still lying. tell her the truth, you screwed up. She might surprise you with how strong she might be. but she deserves the truth regardless.
Ok lets go thru the run down of what happened. I was at my friends house for a small party and during the night I became rather drunk and player some strip poker (which I won but thats not important really) after which a girl at the party and myself started flirting and stuff. Now the bad part of this is that I have a girlfriend (relationship is a few weeks long). Now when I'm drunk I like to wrestle and I started wrestling with this girl who was half naked and everything would have been alright up to this point (cuz I had told my girlfriend that i was going to a party and would being playing strip poker and some stuff might happen) However then things went overboard and a part of me started to tell me that I could do what I wanted with this girl (yea by a part of me basically look at it as a double personality seeing how thats it's equivalent) So anyways I ended up having sex with this girl who I found out likes me (kinda duh, why would she have sex with me if she didn't) and now I'm confused on what to do. Oh and its only been about 3 days since I cheated and me and my girlfriend will be seeing each other tomorrow.
I see my options as this:
1) I can come out and tell my girlfriend and ruin her life (No understatement like DEMOLISH her life)
2) I can completely Lie to her and get the people who know to be quiet (they are all good friends)
3) I can tell part of the truth that suggests that something happened without saying it happened and as such not lie but not tell her I cheated thus not destroying her life
Then again I may be missing something other then the fact I'm an idiot who cheated on someone who is very serious about him. Any suggestions?
i think you should own up. and take the consequences. i have a hunch she will get over it.
also maybe give up drink, clearly you have an alcohol problem. im serious i think you do, if your attributing your infidelity to drinking. quit drinking until you have matured. tell your girlf you will quit drinking, she may give you a chance if you do that.
and promise to end any friendship with the other girl, theres no point hurting her too
I don't think she has to surprise me, I know she is a strong girl. And yes part of me is yelling why don't you tell her but other part, the same part that compelled me to cheat, is saying what the hell you can get away with this and not have any problems.
Personaly if it was me i would want to know. Just try talking to her carmly and tell her u didnt really know what u was doing at the time and u know it was a big mistake now.
you played roulette with you relationship that night. you may have won strip poker, but you lost the roulette. own up. ur girlf deserves to make her own choice on whether to forgive u or not. and its not cool to be playing strip poker anyway. your meant to be in relationship. she put trust in you that night, you totally let her and you down. give her the choice to stay or go. u know its rite thing to do
No drinking wasn't what screw me the most, yes it did take away the last bit of logic however most of my common sense was screwed over with other problems in my life so when i got drunk this time I didn't care what happened as much. Without that stress in my life this wouldn't have happened for I have and would have refused actions like these. But of course excuses are stupid and pointless
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