Ok lets go thru the run down of what happened. I was at my friends house for a small party and during the night I became rather drunk and player some strip poker (which I won but thats not important really) after which a girl at the party and myself started flirting and stuff. Now the bad part of this is that I have a girlfriend (relationship is a few weeks long). Now when I'm drunk I like to wrestle and I started wrestling with this girl who was half naked and everything would have been alright up to this point (cuz I had told my girlfriend that i was going to a party and would being playing strip poker and some stuff might happen) However then things went overboard and a part of me started to tell me that I could do what I wanted with this girl (yea by a part of me basically look at it as a double personality seeing how thats it's equivalent) So anyways I ended up having sex with this girl who I found out likes me (kinda duh, why would she have sex with me if she didn't) and now I'm confused on what to do. Oh and its only been about 3 days since I cheated and me and my girlfriend will be seeing each other tomorrow.

I see my options as this:
1) I can come out and tell my girlfriend and ruin her life (No understatement like DEMOLISH her life)
2) I can completely Lie to her and get the people who know to be quiet (they are all good friends)
3) I can tell part of the truth that suggests that something happened without saying it happened and as such not lie but not tell her I cheated thus not destroying her life

Then again I may be missing something other then the fact I'm an idiot who cheated on someone who is very serious about him. Any suggestions?

ISneezeFunny

there should be a disclaimer on this forum:

if you cheat, you will die...

you need to let this girl go. let her go, tell her you're sorry, tell her she deserves better. let it go. as anamia said, this crap will come flying back at you like beads on mardi gras.

TheodoreLamont

Well I convinced my gf not to meet the girl and yea I think I have got everything under control. Also to the ppl who think that my gf will keep throwing it in my face when i get into an argument i dont care, i did something and that the result so guess what i get to live with it. Anyways thats everything for this, thanks to anyone who actually help.

vbeez

Do not assume that your cheating is that important! What WILL destroy this girl is if you stay with her under the false impression that you are a good boyfriend! It will be much worse if you do not tell her and she finds out later down the line, and trust me SHE WILL FIND OUT!! No one ever gets away with stuff like that, it may not be right away but she will find out eventually.

eruditemargaret9

I have been cheated on: it hurts like HELL. But there is one universal truth--as true as the fact that the sky is blue. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE FOUND OUT. The worst thing that could POSSIBLY happen would be for her to NOT find out from you thus destroying your/her life. You got yourself in a bad situation so DO NOT expect there to be any easy way out--there isn't and if so that would be too good to be true. You must tell her. Period. Yes it sucks but the only thing that will suck 1000 times more is NOT telling her. I swear on a stack of bibles--if there is anything in the world I know, it is this. PERIOD.

starbuck8

Grow the Hell up!! Your g/f doesn't deserve you and your crap!! Just the fact that you were asking yourself...should i tell her?, can I get away with it?, can I save my own sorry A$$?, can I get my friends to get me out of this?... says that she should run away in the other direction as fast as she can. Leave her alone and let her find someone that is worthy of her time!!

You are a selfish person and I think you are also quite arrogant to assume that this would "DEMOLISH" her life...get over yourself rockstar!!

If you had any decency and respect for her, you would have told her that she deserves better, right after you told her the "truth!?" Shame on you!

Also, you thanked the people that "actually helped"? I think you were initially asking people to justify what you did and support you...not the people that were trying to tell you the way it really goes!

nicki143

The best thing to do i think is tell the truth as it will come out in the end maybe not now but later and i think know that will hurt more. What more have you lied about since then be honest tell the truth and move on

eruditemargaret9

Confused---you convinced her not to meet the other girl? Uh so you told her about it and she wanted to meet the other girl only to find that you convinced her not to??? Why would this be an option in the first place?

Also, you said the stripper girl likes you and "duh because she slept with you, so obviously.
Have you considered that women can have no strings attached flings as well? That is, we CAN sleep with a man without it meaning we are hooked on him. So, no it doesn't mean she likes you, although it COULD but maybe she just thought you were hot and wanted to try you in bed?