Ok lets go thru the run down of what happened. I was at my friends house for a small party and during the night I became rather drunk and player some strip poker (which I won but thats not important really) after which a girl at the party and myself started flirting and stuff. Now the bad part of this is that I have a girlfriend (relationship is a few weeks long). Now when I'm drunk I like to wrestle and I started wrestling with this girl who was half naked and everything would have been alright up to this point (cuz I had told my girlfriend that i was going to a party and would being playing strip poker and some stuff might happen) However then things went overboard and a part of me started to tell me that I could do what I wanted with this girl (yea by a part of me basically look at it as a double personality seeing how thats it's equivalent) So anyways I ended up having sex with this girl who I found out likes me (kinda duh, why would she have sex with me if she didn't) and now I'm confused on what to do. Oh and its only been about 3 days since I cheated and me and my girlfriend will be seeing each other tomorrow.

I see my options as this:
1) I can come out and tell my girlfriend and ruin her life (No understatement like DEMOLISH her life)
2) I can completely Lie to her and get the people who know to be quiet (they are all good friends)
3) I can tell part of the truth that suggests that something happened without saying it happened and as such not lie but not tell her I cheated thus not destroying her life

Then again I may be missing something other then the fact I'm an idiot who cheated on someone who is very serious about him. Any suggestions?

TheodoreLamont

I told her this morning and she was angry and such but said she still loves me and she didnt dump me

Ash123

Mmm hmmm.

How you gonna do that?

TheodoreLamont

well i think i will have to convince my gf that there is no point to meeting the other girl or i could just refuse to tell her who it is. does anyone have an idea on how to stop it other then those two ideas?

Ash123

well that about covers it...let me know how it turns out.

i would have chosen my option. separate for a while. but maybe you can pull it off.

TheodoreLamont

will let you know how it goes. and i dont know how good she would take seperating for a bit

Ash123

Well, that about covers it. I would have chosen the route I suggested: trial separation, but maybe you can pull it off.

Let me know how it goes.

Altenweg

You've only been dating for a short time, it's not like she's invested allot of time into you and your relationship, how hard can it be to separate for a bit. As for keeping the two girls apart, I would just explain to her that no good can come of it and also let her know in no uncertain terms that it took two of you to cheat, if she wants to unleash some of her anger it should be directed at you, not the other girl (although I don't recommend physical violence of any sort ever). If she feels like screaming at someone than that should be you, or did you put all the blame on the other girl, is that why she wants to confront her? If she has decided to forgive you than she should forgive the girl. If she can't do that then you should both call it quits as this relationship will be more doomed than it already is.

TheodoreLamont

I said to blame me, i know I'm at fault. and this girl has liked me for a year before we started dating so she kinda has inveested a bit of time in this relationship

chelseata

i promise you, if you tell her, you will NOT be ruining her life. you're not that great, cheater.

you'll more than likely be saving her from wasting time with a cheater that doesn't respect her, love her, or actually care about her. drunk schmunk. be a man and tell her the truth.

Ash123

ya might wanna read all the posts. he did tell her