I cheated on my boyfriend with my best friend!

cordobas8888 · Oct 17, 2008, 05:47 AM

I think that SSE08 got the message...don't you think?

talaniman · Oct 17, 2008, 06:36 AM

Amazing how we feel guilty after the deed, but not before.

No matter what you do, somehow it will come back on you, so I advise you be prepared to pay the consequences of your actions, whatever that may be.

slapshot_oi · Oct 17, 2008, 06:55 AM

Ha, well I guess you two aren't getting married!

Your relationship is actually the least of your problems right now because it's certain the relationship will end (sad-face). But, and this is the kicker, you've likely destroyed your relationship with your "bestfriend", too. It's obvious he had feelings for you, but instead of acknowledging and talking about them, you used him for sex.

Someday, with hope, you'll find someone dumb enough to fall in love with you. Good luck!

Chery · Oct 17, 2008, 10:26 AM

I also don't think that the 'best friend' will come around unless he just wants more sex, as most guys don't respect girls that cheat in a relationship.

So, you've got your advice - and a lot of it here - now it's your turn to take a second look at what you really value in a friendship and/or relationship.

It takes some of us humans longer than others to mature and I hope you get it right this time and use a little self-respect and thought for other's feelings.

We know you feel terrible, but we don't really know the motives... Only you do - the first step is to be truthful to yourself, then respect others in the future.

The only ones we can change is ourselves.

SSE08 · Oct 18, 2008, 08:13 PM

I will NEVER have sex with the best friend again. EVER. (i don't want to sound too graphic either but) we didn't really have full out sex. I stopped him after a few in outs.

So that isn't an option for me to do. I am considering dropping the friendship between the guy and me because frankly; he's an . He has always been trying to get with me and he always asks me on dates and such. And I'm NOT into him that way. After reading most of these posts, I realize how he just wants to be with me more. I can't believe I've been tolerating that for this long.
So I'm cutting that friendship. Ps. Visiting him at college means--> drinking. =/

With the boyfriend-- He loves me. I know that. I DO FEEL SELFISH but I'm not a selfish person. I want to tell him what happened, I WILL tell him what happened. To be completely honest, I don't think he would break up with me. He WOULD NOT trust me though; for a long time. I'm just so ashamed; as I should be.

TrueFaith · Oct 18, 2008, 08:28 PM

You never had full sex. Just a few in and outs?

My god women. I can't say anything... Honestly I can not think of a healthy reply to that post seriously.

I will say this. I really Really do feel sorry for your Friend and your X boyfriend
And I hope they do better without you in there lives

Chery · Oct 18, 2008, 08:38 PM

Deciding not to drink and fool around with casual college friends is a wise and mature decision - proud of you.

As I said before, we are all human, and have made our mistakes in life. Learning from them and going in a better direction is also commendable - not all manage to get out of their past mess.

Now what your boyfriend does when he learns you were weak but that you no longer enjoy those drinking parties and casual flirts, is something you will have to live with and yes, you'll have to work hard to regain his trust. I sincerely hope that it works out for you.

But if it does not - please don't take a step backward and go back to the parties - keep on going forward and you'll eventually regain peace and harmony in your life. I really wish that for you. Just take whatever happens as a lesson learned and go on with your life as best as you can. We will be here to help.

Good luck, and keep us posted.

liz28 · Oct 18, 2008, 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by SSE08

So that isn't an option for me to do. I am considering dropping the friendship between the guy and me because frankly; he's an . He has always been trying to get with me and he always asks me on dates and such. And I'm NOT into him that way. After reading most of these posts, I realize how he just wants to be with me more. I can't believe I've been tolerating that for this long.
So I'm cutting that friendship. Ps. Visiting him at college means--> drinking. =/

If this friend was showing all this interst in you and knew you was involved with someone, you should have limited yourself around him and put an end to his behavior and if he couldn't stop then end the friendship. I think you love the attention from him and slept with him because you wanted to see what it was like, your words. He didn't force you to have sex with him and you could have said no but you wanted too.

Regardless of the number of times he entered you, your still had sex. Just come clean with your boyfriend.

marriaget · Oct 18, 2008, 09:00 PM

That's not cool doing that to your boyfriend.
If he's the one, that means you love him dearly and greatly, why would you do that?

Though we are humans, and we have our temptations, and sometimes they can get the best of us.

Well, tell him, and accept what he chooses to do!

kitten420 · Oct 18, 2008, 11:03 PM

Firstly were you thinking. If your boyfriend is so called the one for you why would you even think of doing anything to mess that up! You need to tell him everything that you did to him. And if he stays with you he definitely is stupid and rly must love you a lot. I believe that when you love someone and you know they are the one you would never even think of doing something so stupid! What was going through your head you seem as if you don't even care that you cheated you only seem like you care about getting caught.. ... Which to me seems as if you rly could care less about your boyfriend. Maybe you shld tell him the truth and if he leaves you I think he would be dong the right thing because if your going to your best friend because he was jealous that shows you care less about your boyfriend. And everyone knows that as long as you are going to associate with your best friend your still going to cheat on your boyfriend with him. Again and again. And if you decide that you do rly love your boyfriend and it was a mistake I would advise you might as well chose between your best friend and your man because if you still want your boyfriend you might as well never talk to your best firend again. And if your boyfriend even takes you back you better prepare for a long road of arguing , jealousy, and insecurity. Because that is exactly how your boyfriend will feel. So I hope your ready for the challenges that are ahead for you.

I cheated on my boyfriend with my best friend!

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