So i'm recently single and i recently started talking to a new guy. He was a friend a friend first and we were talking about my recent break up and i said i wanted to go on a date with someone just to get back out there.. he then was like i'll take you on a date. it started out very friendly, we jokingly referred to eachother as boyfriend/girlfriend. then we had our fall break and we both went home from college (im a sophmore he's a senior) and over break we started talking a whole lot then we came back and we still talk a lot and friday night i spent the night with him and all saturday together. I saw him yesterday for a little and things were cute and fun, we enjoy eachother.. today he had a midterm and wasn't feeling well and seemed a little distant.. i don't if im thinking to much into it or what but i don't know do you think this could work into a relationship or is it all still a friendly joke?
if it's been this long and you still dont know if you two are officially "going out." then i would just flat out ask him. "hey, are you serious about this?" it shows that you can communicate and trust him enough to ask him a question like that. i dont think he would be offended by something so innocent. maybe he's been wondering the same thing! if he says that "yes, it's serious." and he's in it for the long-term thing...then by all means, pursue it if you think your relationship has a chance!
if he says "im not sure." give it some time to develop. if it does, then ask him again awhile later and see if he thinks it's getting serious.
if he says that it's just a joke, then dont move on. broken hearts arent worth it. it would be even harder if you got attached to him! so ask him now!
relationships only end in two ways, either marriage, or a break-up. wouldnt you want it to end in marriage? if so, keep that mindset. dont go into a relationship with the intent of not getting married.
thanks for the advice.. no we have not had sex yet i don't want to rush things to much. today he is really sick and i told him i would bring some soup over to him so i guess i should bring up where this is going then.
ok so my last thread was about not knowing where a relationship was going.. we talked and we both agreed that it was eventually going to get serious... last night with out talking about anythiing he changed his relationship status on facebook to in a relationship... this confuses me a lot. should i change mine.. or should we talk about it? what should i do... also he lost his phone this weekend in a cab so right now the only way to communicate is via facebook and i want to write something on his wall but not somthing to too cheesy and nothing about our relationship cause we need to have that convo in person.. any suggestions?
oh p.s i just asked one of our mutual friends his frat brothers if he had got a new phog i ne and he said he had but that he prob wasnt in the mood to talk his dad just had a stroke.. and that i wasnt allowed to say anything cause he wanted it be private...any suggestions of something i can say to show him how much i like him and am here with out saying i know about his dad... (we always send each other cute messages so he wont think its weird at all)
If you're newly single, I would suggest waiting a while before jumping back into the dating game. The last thing you want is for your emotions to be played with. (After all, you are newly single, and your feelings are probably very fragile at this point, which makes you vulnerable to be charmed and used by a guy.)
If you feel like you HAVE to be in this "friendship/relationship" I would suggest cooling your jets and sticking with the friendship for the time being. Sending cute messages to each other, and falling for a guy right away could just mean you're on the rebound, and on the road toward another disaster. Be very cautious.
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