I'd been going out with my girl for 2months, then one day she just turned around and said that she ' couldn't be bothered'. This was about 2 weeks ago. I tried my hardest, and did nothing wrong to her. This was my first serious relationship. Ever since we split, all I can think about is her, and it really upsets me, I've ended up in tears a few times. I could be out having a good time, and then I will just think of her, for no apparent reason. I really love her, but she doesn't love me. I don't know what to do, I just feel like crying all the time. I've tried to do things to distract me, but I always think of her. I feel really empty. I want 2 just move on but I can't. Any advice?

Thanx
Andyb43

talaniman

First loves can be rough and not to bust your bubble its probably going to happen a few more times in your life and its going to hurt again and again!So you can cry about it or move on and learn from your mistakes.Just cause you love someone doesn't mean they'll feel the same, so count this as a blessing to look for someone who'll love you the same as you love them,I bet you'll take it a little slower next time huh!Bet you'll look a little deeper into the person too!A real relationship takes two,both sides getting a little something that they want and need ,its not enough to be in love and its only going one way!So lighten up on yourself a little and get busy with your life and look around and see all those females out there looking for what you have to offer.Your ex will fade in the background when you start to move your life forward!

letmeno

I agree with Talaniman. In the dating/relationship game, you are going to meet some characters. Each and every individual that you meet and date will better prepare you for the next one. This is not the first time that you have been dumped, and it is not the last time either. It does not mean that you are a horrible person it only means that YOU were not the person for her. But hey, out there somewhere there is someone who is waiting on a person exactly like you. And the next person that you may have a relationship with, you may not like her at all but you will never be able to get rid of her That is just the way that life goes. It makes you stronger. Back up and leave her be. It will get better trust me.

s_cianci

Wow. All that after only 2 months? That's not a very long time in the overall grand scheme of things. I think that there may be something else that's bothering you here, moreso than your "love" for this girl. Perhaps a bruised ego? A lot of guys have a hard time accepting the fact that a girl would actually reject them. It hurts, but not for the right reason. I think you need to become a little more aloof and thicken your skin a little. Rejection is a part of life and you've got to be prepared to deal with it without taking it personally.

Parvan

Sucks man I can identify, My ex lied to me, probably cheated on me and then lied to me to try to get back together and I still can't stop thinking about her. I can tell you though it will pass. When me and my wife split I went through the same thing and it eventually got better. Just keep yourself occupied as mucha s possible spend soem time with friends or family. Hope this helps.

DJ 'H'

I know it's tough, but things will get easier and you will eventually move on.

What you have to put into perspective is that you were together for only two months. Atleast she was honest with you now rather than two years down the line - things could have been a lot worse.

Just carry on occupying yourself and doing all the things you used to do before you met her. before long you will meet a wonderful girl who wants to be with you as much as you want to be with them and your ex will ecome more than a distant memory.

I have been there so have faith. You will be just fine, hang in there!!

fredg

Hi, Andyb,
It is hard to get over someone and it does take some time.
You will eventually meet someone who is just right for you. As others have answered, give it some time. The pain will begin to decrease, as you talk with others, and meet new girls.
Talking about it is the best thing you can do, and I have been there, too,...done that.
I do wish you the best, and hang in there; it will get better.

Wildcat21

Love is not developed in two months.

It's smitten, it's lust.....it's more the love of a realtionship than loving that person.

I think you like the IDEA and DREAM of a realtionship than really that person.

I bet if you really took an honest, close look at her you'd find a lot of fault and things you don't like about her - she probably knew this.

Learn from this.

Don't contact this gal either. Don't do it.

bizygurl

I understand your hurt, but this too shall pass. Eventually you will get over her. There isn't too much you can do when the other person doesn't return your feelings. There are so many other woman out there. Don't waste too much time over this girl. Go out and enjoy yourself.

Jesushelper76

I know having your heart broken can really bring a person down. In relationships, some last and some do not. It might be easy to say but this experiance that you have will help you become stronger. You need to realize that each experiance we have in life is a learning experiance. What it is, is all in the outlook in life. The outlook of life. So you had 2 months of good times with this women. It did not last but what you need to be is thankful for that time you did have. Nothing is garenteed, nothing is garuanteed to last forever. What you need to do is say thank you for that experiance. Look at it and then do your best to let it go. Think of it as if you do not let this girl go, you might miss out on the next love of your life that is really meant for you. She obvously right now in this time of your life is not meant for you. You need to have fun and think to yourself you are going to enjoy every moment of your life and enjoy every moment as if it your last. Live your life to the fullest and When you least expect it God will give you another gift of love. Appreciate every moment and think of it as a positive experiance. Think of the good times and remember that old saying. There is plenty of fish in the sea.

Joe