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The ex i told you all about hit me,Because i would not go back to him. He told me if i did not come back to him then no one would have me, So now why do i steel love him? I want to go back to him,So what do i do? I love this guy more than anything in the wourld. I just wish he would grow up.
He left me than is hitting me, And now i scared that if i dont go back to him he will hurt me or even kill me.
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you know what you should do, you might just want someone else to say it to you.
you need to find some strength for yourself. find some close friends or family and TELL THEM about it. it will empower you. right now, it seems you are very vulnerable. and you might not think you deserve any better than this.
would you like to see a child of yours in this situation? i dont think you would. you have to find a way to stay away from this man. even if you tell yourself it's only temporary. otherwise you won't be able to get any perspective, and feel any stronger. otherwise, you won't be able to make any clear decisions.
step one is asking for help, step two is asking for support, step three is taking time out, step four is making decisions. that's just my opinion.
you know what is good for you underneath all of your torn feelings and broken heart.
this man should know better,but doesn't. it sounds like he has too many problems of his own that would drag you down even further. he is actually threatening you. don't see this as love. its abusive, violent and WRONG. Love is not about negatives, especially ones like this, Kandy.
yes this will be hard, but find a way to stay away from him, even if it means involving the police. this guy will only do you more damage, you know that already.
do you think you are worth more than this? then find a way to move through it x
Do not go back to a man like this, he does not want love, he wants control.
You are in fear not love, you are scared to do what you have to do, and this makes you beleive you want something. Having worked with battered partners in Atlanta for many years, it does not get better, he does not stop, he isnot really sorry ( if he says he is) If you go back it will just continue and become more often.
The only way to really be safe is not to go back at all and start a new life.
but i can tell my mom i have been talking to him again.and my friends will say i told you he would do this to you.my brother will go to jail if i tell him he will hurt him or even worse so who can i tell. i dont want to put him in jail i love this guy i have put up with it for 4 years and i dont want him in jail. so what can i do i lay and cry and i need someone to tell me what i can do
you have "put up with it"? you don't need this at all. let your friends say those things to you, you know theyre right! but also ask that they support you and help you, and are there for you. you dont have to choose this man. look at the confusion it is causing you! i'm really serious here, you have to get away from him. Fr Chuck is absolutely right. in all of what he has said. this man is not good for you, despite whether you love him or not. get out of it now, before this situation becomes even more painful for you, and you have given up asking for help. this is my advice. if anyone else has opinions they will write them here for you. but i really think you are spelling it out yourself. the way you have written your posts suggests you already know what is right and wrong for you. please, listen to your instincts. yes, it hurts to walk away from someone you care for, but you are at risk of losing your sense of self completely if you get back with him. you will be putting yourself in a stupidly dangerous position.
This man has screwed you over so bad now he's kicking your ***. In your other thread all the advice told you to leave him and don't go back so now he's doing the fear/control thing. Call the police ,tell your family you need all the protection you can get from this psycho loser,act now,not tommorrow and then get some professional help because you need it bad.Anyone who can love someone who abuses them the way he has done you is in serious need of a lot of help,I beg you to heed what has been told you here and do it now to save yourself from the hell your going thru! Your biography says you need someone who treats you the way you want to be treated,and my dear he ain't it!
you DONT need a man who wants to control you and your life, thats not love. Make sure you speak to your family or a friend you really trust dont keep this burden on your shoulders alone.
Hi,
Your feelings will only get worse, and your situation will only get worse, unless you do something about it.
If he hit you, I would call your local Police. Report him.
If he has to go to jail for whatever, then so be it.
Your life is a "mess" with this person; only you can change it. There are other men out there. It will take you some time to get over him. I know cause I've been in love many years ago with a girl, and it didn't work out. Took a year to get over her.
Please try your best to stay away from this man. Call the Police.
Best of luck.
It is most obvious you have not been abused and hurt enough. I have sadly seen this in Atlanta time and time again. The women comes out of the ER with cuts, bruises, black eye and torn dress. She then goes on down to the police station and posts the bail for the man who just beat her up because she knows he really loves her and it was all her fault for being in the way of his fist.
You need seroius counseling help. First he has a problem and no he does not really love you. Next yes you need to tell everyone that will listen and not go back to him.
This ends in one of several ways.
1. he kills you finally
2. you kill him in self defense finally
3. you live with him getting beat almost every week or day for the rest of your life, living in fear
4. you have children who watch you get beat, who learn that is the way women are to be treated and they continue the process.
Or worst they also learn what it is like to be beaten, since if you won't protect yourself you won't do anything for the children either
5. Or you go to support groups of battered women, you learn the truth, and you refuse to ever see him again. And if he hurts you again you call the police and press charges.
The choice is yours, pick one of the above and that is your life.
I know that it is hard to tell your family and friends, you probably are thinking in your head that they will think you are stupid, but you are not, BUT you have to leave this guy in the dust, DO NOT let him intimidate you or make you feel below him because the truth is HE IS BELOW YOU! There is an 800# you can call for woman who have been battered 1-800-799-7233 or for Tennessee it is 1-800-356-6767, please call one of these numbers, they are people who have heard it all and can give you the best advice possible, if you are too afraid to tell anyone else. Please call, and BE SAFE!
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