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I can't decide between two women I like. Maybe you can.

Asked Nov 5, 2009, 08:29 PM — 23 Answers
Hey guys, I don't want to make this super long because I know you won't read it. So i'll cut straight to the chase. I'll list them as Girl A and Girl B to keep their identity private.

There is two girls I like. Girl A I met a few weeks ago, I kind of helped her out of a bad relationship and apparently she fell for me during that time. I was just trying to be a friend but it seems she thinks its developed into more than that during that time. I kind of like her too but its only been a few weeks so I can't exactly say I'm head over heels for her yet.

The other girl. Girl B. Is my ex from about 6 months ago. We broke up because we had poor communication between each other and we were drifting apart. So I made it easier on both of us and just ended the relationship early. I hadn't talked to her in 6 months but all of a sudden she comes back. Texts me and calls me and we start talking again.

Just a few days after girl A telling me she wanted to get into a relationship. Girl B tells me she wants to get back into a relationship with me. Now I've got problems on my plate and I can't decide. I told them both lets just be friends because, to be honest I felt un attatched to both of them and didn't want to hurt anyone. Telling them if we just were friends seemed to make it worse. So I'm back where I started basically.

I'll list some pros and cons of each girl. I'm 18 by the way.


Girl A:
I've known her for a couple of weeks
Shes 18
No kids
Sweet,kind and caring and seems really genuine. I've told her if I was ugly if she would still like me. She said it was all about personality which she is attracted to mine. So looks is just a bonus
Never been engaged or anything

Girl B:
Ex from about 6 months ago(we only lasted like a month anyway)
Shes 22
Has a kid
She says she really cares for me but I'm not sold on that. She wants me to let her love me again and all that jazz.
Used to be a stripper(lol I know)
Has been engaged before and almost married
Shes told me straight up. If I was ugly or a fence post. She wouldn't be going out with me. She doesn't want to be embarresed with someone in public.. All my friends tell me this girl is a beeyotch. She calls herself one too sometimes. I already know but I still can't just ignore her for some reason. Maybe I'm thinking about like.. What if?

I know I should probably pick girl A because girl B has a kid. I'd have to change my life around and help be a dad for a kid that's not even mine but its not even that big a deal to me really. I know I could be a good father figure to him. Maybe I'm too young to get into the mess with the girl that is 22 though. She does seem like she's experienced a lot more stuff than I have. Like being engaged, and some other stuff that isn't that great.. To bring home to mamma.

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#2

Nov 5, 2009, 09:05 PM
Girl 'A' please, or just go find another girl! You need to date around, your young and the child will make you feel committed.

I was going for 'A' before I read the bottom post
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Nov 5, 2009, 09:08 PM
One key element was missing in this scenario...who do you love?
Who are you willing to accept..AS IS ?
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#4

Nov 5, 2009, 09:47 PM
BY the little quirky comments you kept slipping in there about Girl B. I have a feeling you already know who you want. (GIRL A if you're confused)!

To be honest I don't want to decide because I think you're leaning one way over the other therefor being biast in your PRO/CON list. You made GIRL B look bad bro, so I think you know who you want!

Good Luck!

RICK
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Nov 5, 2009, 09:48 PM
Everything stated is what they told me. No assumptions made. I really do think I should go with girl A. Girl B just sounds.. Really exciting. At the same time though. Do I really want to be ready to help father a kid so young.
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Nov 5, 2009, 09:52 PM


Harshness Alert

Show me someone that has to have an exclusive relationship after a few months, I will show you an very needy insecure person.

When you can't make up your mind, just date, and have fun, and make no promises. But be honest.

I say it all the time:

Date them all, fat, short, skinny, or tall, 18-80, blind cripple, or crazy.

Expand your circle of potential dates and stay free to do so. If you take your time and look around, you will have better options than an ex, that it didn't work with, or someone you don't feel that strongly about. Why choose A, or B, when C is next?
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Nov 5, 2009, 09:56 PM
I can't say much that wasn't said above but I can say that you need to be 100% sure when you do decide. That's only fair to yourself and to the girls. BOTH A & B and little B too (the kid, if you didn't get it)

RIck
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Nov 5, 2009, 09:56 PM
Quote:
Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
Harshness Alert

Show me someone that has to have an exclusive relationship after a few months, I will show you an very needy insecure person.

When you can't make up your mind, just date, and have fun, and make no promises. But be honest.

I say it all the time:

Date them all, fat, short, skinny, or tall, 18-80, blind cripple, or crazy.

Expand your circle of potential dares and stay free to do so. If you take your time and look around, you will have better options than an ex, that it didn't work with, or someone you don't feel that strongly about. Why choose A, or B, when C is next?

Said like a true PLAYEER
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talaniman Posts: 44,329, Reputation: 50356
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Nov 5, 2009, 10:03 PM


Not a player, just a totally honest fun loving guy!
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Nov 5, 2009, 10:03 PM
Yea I don't know if that really helped lol. You basically said date both and be a player lol.
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