I'm 28 years old, and I broke up with my boyfriend a few months ago. At that time I just loved him and i was scared of the love he was showing me. I had never experiences it before with any of my past boyfriends. When we broke up i knew i broke his heart, but we both said we would still be friends.
He has called me a few times upset over family problems and some of the relationship problems that he has had. Now he could talk to his mom, sister, brother, anyone but me, but he calls me.Well one day it just slapped me in the face, that i am 100% head over hills in love with him. Now i dont talk too him alot, and when i do he never says anything about getting back together with me. Well one day i decided to call him up and just tell him how i felt. he told me that he wasnt trying to be mean, but he was with someone now. I knew that already,and i was fine with it. Well the following day he called me up and told me that he needed someone to talk to, and ask me too come up too his work and pick him up.
He proceded to tell me how he had gotten played and what not. I was asking him what was happen and he told me everything. I was there for him, and i wasnt pressuring him at all, but i was just telling him how i felt (i actually let him in, the wall came down), and i knew there was gonna be a chance that they would work things out. And they did, and im fine with that really, because i feel that we are meant too be together, but i will not push him away with talking about my feelings for him, i told him what they are, and now the ball is in his court. I wont call him unless he calls me. Now my question is did i do the right thing? Why call me, when he has other people too talk to?

ForeverZero

I don't want to overstep my bounds, but from personal experience, i know it's hard, but try not to read into things too much. You being the person he calls does not neccesarily mean anything beyond the fact that he likes your opinion on the matter, or he feels like since you've dated, you would offer better insight than somebody else as to his relationship problems. Personally, when i have a relationship problem i run straight to an ex to talk about it, but that doesn't mean i'm interested.

To answer your question, i'd say you've done and are doing the right thing. You've presented yourself as available if he wants it. Anything more would present an image of somebody that's desperate. Keep doing your thing and try to maintain an independant life, and don't spend your days waiting for him to take you back.

tamed

I think you did the right thing by not talking about your feelings and letting him make a decision. There could be a number of reasons why he calls you. For starters, it could be that he feels comfortable with you, the other could be that because the two of you were involved for a while he may feel closer to you than he does anyone else. Whatever his reasons may be, the main point is that you are there for him as a friend foremost and you are willing to give him his space. I think that you are dealing with this much better than I've seen and must commend you for your maturity.
I do wish you all the best as you sound like you deserve it.

s_cianci

What you did was appropriate. Now leave things alone unless he contacts you.

talaniman

You've let him know how you feel so leave him alone to figure out what He wants.